I'm so sorry you had to go through this. She wasn't a lady, you're correct... alchohol or not, she had no right to do this. I believe men should have the same rights as women do.

Sorry I have no advice to offer -- frankly, I worry about this type of behavior if it happens to my husband (I sometimes wonder if some of the spouses and girlfriends who don't like their men wearing kilts might not be because of hearing about -- at least partially -- this sort of attitude that seems to come with some folks regarding the kilt). My husband doesn't want to be kilt checked, and I certainly don't want him to be either. What two consenting adults do is one thing, but the minute someone does that to another without permission... well, it's not right for anyone. Male or female.

Sorry I couldn't offer any better advice except to say that there ARE ladies out there who don't ask private questions or attempt to find out without permission.

Best wishes.