Hubby to join US Military

[Keith A]

From what Iv read everyone has covered a lot of what you are asking.
I was a Seabee and very proud to have been. Just having that on my resume
got me work in the civilian world and I have no regrets. For an outfit that as far as history goes, they do not have a long history but they have a very proud one,and have accomplished some really amazing things the Seebee museum in Port Hueneme is one of the best museums I have ever been in, and covers that history, and just a walk through it would make anyone proud. I would recommend them to anyone looking to join the Navy. Everything you would learn
with them will always translate into the civilian world.
But one thing you have to keep in mind your husband would be taking a job you cant quit. If he ends up hating the military way of life It could make for a very bad time, and the stress that It will put on a marriage, and it will put stress on the marriage is extreme. So be very careful what you and he do if this is done just for economic reasons it could be the worst thing you could both be doing. Most marriages end because of money problems. Then add to that extended periods of separation that could be months and even years.
So what seams to be the answer to a problem could only make it much worse, and be regretted in the end.
Then to end it all regrettably America has a bad habit of relegating its service men and woman to the lowest rung of society,when their time is up and they have given so much
Just look at the numbers of homeless vets.
So please take your time and look at all options and some you may not have thought of.

[wvpiper]

Then to end it all regrettably America has a bad habit of relegating its service men and woman to the lowest rung of society,when their time is up and they have given so much

Curious, if you were to sample the homeless vets and ask them why they are homeless, how many would answer 'because I'm a vet'.

[Dirka Skene]

Well, the veterans that I know aren't that bad off. I wouldn't have any complaints if I were them. I have several vets in my family, who know several more. None of whom are homeless. I know a few who retired from the military, got second careers and retired from those and are now living off two pensions. An old school mate of mine was wounded in Iraq. He's a double amputee. He is being better taken care of than the majority of civilian amputees in America. I dunno, maybe it depends on what you want to do when you get out of the military.

[Dirk Skene]

Well, the veterans that I know aren't that bad off. I wouldn't have any complaints if I were them. ...........

Hi Princess, Our family has a very long history of military history. The ONLY reason I did not go in is because I got "caught" when I tried to join the Marine Corps. I tried to fake the physical and almost made it

[bunchdescendant]

There have been several times when my unit landed on Air Force installations to refuel, we were always passengers. We loved this for two reasons. They had Women, real, soft, beautiful, and delicate women. I digress, more important, their chow hall was five star to us. Their food was cooked! It looked like real food! and most importantly of all, it tasted like real food.

Now I know you couldn't have possibly been at Nellis AFB! Our cooks had a knack of making food that totally inedible.

My primary AFSC was Weapons Control Systems Tech, Secondary was Security Police. The training as a WCS tech (F-4D Phantom II 'Phantom Phixer') allowed me to work for a school district as a communications tech.

I was promised a number of things going in but the all-prevailing government contract made null and void any and all recruiter promises. That was pointed out to me 'after' I signed, btw. I actually went in to be an armorer, of all things.

The USAF destroyed my first marriage and caused me to almost leave the service at one point. Military life will put a heavy strain on your relationship with your hubby so keep that in mind.

Would I do it again? You bet. In a heartbeat. Just with my current wife instead. Too bad I'm just a little too old now ...

[Keith A]

Not to hijack this thread and since it is about how the militay can have an effect on your life, and being some some one who has served. And being the son of a Vet that has been homeless more then one time in his life I thougt I would post this link.

http://www.nchv.org/background.cfm

Yes a lot has to do with how people choose to live their lives but some times
what people go through in the militay can lead to homelessness.
Just because you dont know a homeless vet dose not mean they dont exsit,
and the numbers dont lie.

[Dirka Skene]

Oh I didn't say they don't exist. I just don't think that my husband and I are likely to be homeless in the future. We have too many resources. We also have an awesome support system of family and friends. We both have family that has been in the military and will help us cope. My mother and father-in-law are two of the most awesome people ever and I will be staying with them while my husband is in Basic Training and AOT. I won't be alone, and he won't have to worry while he's away.

[thescot]

Curious, if you were to sample the homeless vets and ask them why they are homeless, how many would answer 'because I'm a vet'.

Very few.

But how many would answer truthfully, "Because I made dumb choices."

I hope everyone sleeps well tonight knowing that future veteras are protecting you from evil people who would like to harm you.

[dfmacliam]

I have yet to meet someone who is homeless because they were veterans.. I met some who happened to be veterans.... I also found that police, firemen, or any job that keeps one working long hours, or travel, or stress related jobs, have a simular divorce rate as the military.. You can blame a lot of issues on a lot of things..but solely because a person is serving.. It's not the blame.. It's a human issue..

[Dirka Skene]

You have all given very good advice that we will definitely keep in mind and we appreciate all of your concerns.