Etiquette Help

[Scotland Forever]

Weddings are perhaps one of the remaining bits of civilization where etiquette is paramount.
I agree with all the sentiments of asking the Bride/Groom/Hosts/Who's paying for the wedding.
I disagree with not asking/who cares/I-wear-my-kilt-everywhere-so-I-expect-to-be-able-to-wear-it, as this is probably the pinnacle of rudeness.

I think that a wedding is about the Bride/Groom coming together and celebrating their union in the manner that they feel reflects their personalities & attitudes. Typically they plan every iota of detail, including manner of dress (day/evening/formal). Most guests understand that the event is about the couple, and the simple etiquette to not outshine the Bride and/or the Groom.

I'm getting married in May and I'm not asking my guys to wear kilts - but they will be in tuxes. Since I'm the only Scot, it seems appropriate for me to be in full regalia. In my experience in regards to being a guest at weddings, I've been asked specifically to wear my Kilt. Either because other guests were asked to wear their military uniforms, or when the entire groom's party were kilted.

Just my two cents...