Quote Originally Posted by Brian K View Post
Well, if you buy good shirts with removable stays (if you lose them they're easily replaceable), and own an iron and spray starch, you can leave the stays out and go with what is sometimes referred to as a "soft collared" look. Most people will never even notice you don't have the stays in and it will be more comfortable.
My shirts are starched, but the collars curl without stays as the shirt ages. I've got a nice supply of stays, but they are still annoying to fool with.