Quote Originally Posted by QMcK View Post
I would leave (unless there were kids involved, in which case we'd have to stay together for their sake).
Well, there is a very young son involved, one which was in many ways an extremely phenomenal godsend for both of us. And due to an extremely bitter divorce, I lost my first two older kids (haven't seen either of them in 5 years, barely speaking to my daughter) to a vindictive first wife who then died on them two years ago leaving them wandering the world without adult supervision or guidance, and leaving me without my family, my historical anchor and raison d'etre. Until I finally settled down with my new wife, and we got our miracle baby two years ago after being told we had a less than 4% chance of ever getting pregnant and carrying to term (combine this with the fact that my current wife lost her only child, her son, to cancer 10 years ago this spring). So I am not enthused about the possibility of doing that divorce and fighting over the kid thing again.

So the kilt thing does have its place in our relationship, but is a bit down the list IMHO. I want my son(s) to have a knowledge and love of their ancestry and family, so much so that I have traced back at least 8 or 9 generations to the first Forrester in our line who crossed the Atlantic in the early 1600s, and have located the graves of my paternal lineage going back at least 5 generations above my father, and maybe six. I also want them to have a love of the kilt, as I have come to love it in these last few years.

As we age, time has much more importance to us, both current time, future time, and past times, our history taking on a far more important role than I ever thought. And although I doubt any of those 9 generations of Forresters/Fosters ever wore a kilt once they landed and prospered on these shores, I am confident that they and their forefathers likely did honor their Scottish heritage whether or not kilts were involved.

But I digress---We now return you to your regulalry scheduled programming. Sorry for the tangent discussion.

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