Quote Originally Posted by bigdad1 View Post
It seems that regardless of whose permission you thought you had you were told by a direct supervisor that you were not to be kilted. He may well have acted like a jerk when he told you but the bottom line is he is the boss and his word is what you need to listen to. My way or the highway is applicable here. Going above his head on this, after the fact, will only serve to make him mad and you can count on him getting revenge at the first opportunity. The chain of command idea isn't just for the military it works in civilian life as well. If I were you I would count this as a lesson learned as to what kind of person he is and what the rules are, and I would move on. You have vented here so you have nothing more to gain. I imagine most of us on this forum have worked for one or more jerks in our lifetime so welcome to the club.
I couldn't disagree more, this man is abusing his position- you need to complain, and if he tries to take revenge it is victimisation and tribunal time. Idiots like this cannot win, you have rights, you had cleared it with his superior prior to the event, and the "transy" comment was pure gold for you as that is harassment pure and simple, especially if it was in front of other people (who may also act as witnesses). I don't suppose your workplace has a union, but is there an employment conciliation service like our AKAS in the US? I imagine if so they would take a dim view of him if you were to tell them. BY NO MEANS leave your job, otherwise this ar$eh01e has won- seriously, you have to fight a b@st@rd such as this.