Kilt at Wedding

[nagod]

its the bride that is the headliner in this production so maybe SHE should make the decision.i assume he would dress appropriately for the time and place and the only question is wear a kilt or not.

[Jock Scot]

its the bride that is the headliner in this production so maybe SHE should make the decision.i assume he would dress appropriately for the time and place and the only question is wear a kilt or not.

Well I suppose if we are going to split hairs, it really ought to be the bride's parents who decide! But in this modern day and age I suppose that may go by the board and might even be a joint decision betwen bride and groom! Thay is why I used the plural "you"!

[Lyle1]

The man is family. If you tell him not wear a kilt, you need to explain why. I think it would be difficult to argue that a kilt would be a greater distraction than what many people might wear to a small, informal wedding at a resort in Mexico! Remember, when you say casual, almost anything goes now-a-days! I'm thinking very bright colors with plenty of exposed skin.

[Jordan]

First up from Scotland.

Most people in Scotland dont own their own kilt, and those that do bought theirs for a special occasion (IE wedding) and it came with the full PC jacket etc.

My advice would be to make sure your brother in law knows that a black tie dinner jacket it a little over the top if he wants to wear his kilt. That a shirt and tie or something to match your (and the brides) level of formality should be worn And direct him here for some more info if he has any questions.

Be prepared for him to say something along the lines of "but it came with the kilt I have to wear it!" because I have heard someone say that and they honestly believed it.banyone can wear anything with any kilt, there are no rules only guidelines and good taste.

Jordan

[piperdbh]

You've heard from two traditionalists who have given opposite advice. Now the decision is yours.

What really matters is, what kind of cake are you having?

[AKScott]

I'll third or fourth or whatever on the kudos to the gentleman who was kind enough to ask upfront rather than assume. That is a thoughtful guy.

Second, a link to the "1 kilt, 10 looks" thread that is a terrific reference, beware, 20 some pictures to download behind this link:

http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/f...-attire-48691/

I suspect the kilt could be dressed down to something that honors/allows the dude to actually wear a kilt, and (bold flashing and) something your bride finds agreeable.

At the end of the day I would advise leaving the decision up to your bride, but taking the blame personally if she says no. I repeat, if the bride says no, do not tell your friend it was the bride's decision.

All the best,
S

EDIT: That he took the trouble to ask also means he knows in advance the answer might be no. You aren't going to need a good reason or long story to say no.

EDITII: If I was going to a beach wedding in Mexico for any of the couples I know I would plan on flip flops, a plain leather sporran with a flask of tequila in it, and a T shirt. Not just any tshirt. A free one. With writing on it. And maybe even a hole in it. Either a scuba diving watch or no watch at all. No tie, no hat. If the bride wanted I could upgrade to a solid color polo shirt and maybe an Aussie hat with one side of the brim turned up.

[GG]

As I see it he can of course wear a kilt - and even if he had no Scottish heritage - should he wish to.

The important thing is that his total appearance is in accordance with the “situation”. And that is the concern of every guest, when chosing what to wear.

Even if a casual affair, at a wedding, guests shall be somewhat dressed up, I suppose. And then the kilt (plus a very few accessories) can easily just substitute for a nice pair of trousers/pants.

And if not spot on, being a little overdressed (showing respect) is far better than being underdressed (showing bad taste or manners).

Greg

PS. Like it has been said, many of the ladies shall most likely be more colorful than he in his kilt, and in the worst case he should therefore hardly outshine the bride but the groom.

[OftKilted]

If other than the kilt he is attired appropriately (i.e. In casual attire: no jacket, waistcoat, dirk, etc.) why not?

The kilt can be worn as a garment with everything from tshirts to white tie formal. The Royal Troon (a club in Scotland) actually classifies the kilt as "shorts" in regards to their dress code. X Marks had a thread about that here ( http://www.xmarksthescot.com/forum/f...-2010-a-61225/ ).

With a Tommy Bahamas comfortable silk short sleeved shirt, beach appropriate shoes (no ghillies) and a casual daywear sporran the kilt is just another piece of clothing. (An X Kilt or other MUG would be appropriate as well).

That being said, you have the option to make your own decision. I suppose my question might be is the issue that you have the the tartan, or the fact that he isn't wearing pants and is wearing a MUG? Or the potential of the formal attire that would outstrip your level of formality?

If the issue is the level of formality, then you can address that with a conversation. If the issue is that you don't like the Tartan or feel that tartan is appropriate then that is your decision as well (would you allow plaid pants?). If the concern is that he is wearing a MUG... Then that is something you will want to think about. If the problem is that you or the missus feel men should wear pants and not MUGs.... Well that is personal and outside of our ability to provide advice.

Either way, congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

[Hachiman]

Hi Oscar,

Firstly, congrats on the wedding! Now, I agree with many: he's being a gentleman for asking beforehand. However, while it is also your wedding, IMHO the person who needs to have the first, second, and final say is the bride. Ask the bride if she minds / cares / has an opinion. If she says it's ok, then it's ok. Then, as long as you are ok with it, let your Scottish fellow know it's ok, and what level of formality you recommend, etc.

cheers!

Hachiman