As a senior in high school now, I can definetly tell you self confidence comes from how you make yourself. I joined this forum about the same age as you years ago and it took me awhile to build great self confidence. My dad always picked on me while my friends and family thought it was awesome. You'll have it when you can stand up for yourself and take pride in who YOU are. It helped that I was some punk teenager that rebelled at what some people thought of me, I still do.

Maturity is when you take all the experiences and what you learn from them, and how that makes you a better person, and not so much as how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I recently went through a break up myself (5 monthes ago), every one knows the pain and it only means that you're human. The kilt is a great way to make new friends, doesn't have to be a new love.