Some postive spouse response

[Panache]

...Here's the thing....if someone ELSE says something snide about my kilts, then all I have to do is turn her loose on 'em and they retreat, bleeding from multiple wounds. nope, nope..it's her prerogative and only her prerogative to rag on me about kilts.

After she has completely accepted the kilt wearing, what will she rag on you about then? What indeed

Jake,

Glad to hear you are making progress. Good on your wife for being accepting.

Cheers

[Mr. Kilt]

For those who have unsupportive wives, here is a little story about persistance. Somewhat off-topic, but the point of the story is similar.

When I first met my wife, she hated motorcycles. So much so that I wasn't allowed to even mention the word. She'd had a bad experience with motorcycles in a past relationship (insane sportbike rider who crashed with her on the back), and she refused to have anything to do with them since.

I hadn't had a bike for 6 years prior to meeting her, but I always hoped to start riding again. My future wife's opinion kind of nixed that idea, or so I thought. I started to bring up the subject of bikes very gradually, pointing out the nice customized ones we'd occasionally see at a car show or on the streets. Over time she started to see the beauty in some of the bikes, but the possibility of owning one was still out of the question.

One day at a family reunion one of my cousins had his big Harley tour bike with him, and he was giving all the kids rides. I asked him if he'd take my wife out if she was willing, and if so to please ride carefully and calmly. After alot of discussion she finally agreed to go, probably just to shut me up. :rolleyes:

Well hell, after that she didn't want to get off the bike!! She realized how much fun they could be with a safe and responsible rider. She told me that once we had our finances in order that I could buy another bike. In 2003 I did just that, and now she absolutely LOVES to ride with me. Her biggest regret is that she spent all those years resisting me about bikes.

Moral of the story...keep working on your wives. With time and patience there is a very good chance they will see the light.

[Captain]

I think I may have some good news on this front as well... but it might be too early to tell. I wore my new Clark/Clergy tartan casual from USAK last night and within 5 minutes my wife said both:

"I can't believe you wore that, it's embarrassing"

and

"You look good tonight... er... ahh... I mean from the waist up."

I have the sneaking suspicion that the Utilikilt didn't fit her idea of a kilt, but the new USAK does and she's fighting the fact that she likes it.

I've seen her do this before... I'll beg and plead to get her to see a movie and then finally, a month after watching it, she'll tell me that it was a good film and she really enjoyed it... Then there's the TIVO. It took me a year and a half to talk her into buying one... 3 weeks after we did she told me she doesn't know how she lived without one... :rolleyes:

It seems as if I like it she wants to fight it as a matter of principle... even if she does approve.

[Blu (Ontario)]

My SO started out as the special occasions only type. By special occasion,that meant formal dances or dinners, h. games, weddings, and Xmas, and that's about it. It's taken several years and quite a few in-depth discusions but she now understands it's not a joke or strange affectation. Now she rarely makes a comment.

In my case the secret was persistance with patience ...... but with reasonable limits.

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[ckelly327]

I'm going to tempt fate a little bit and go to my mother's Christmas Open house kilted without warning my wife first. It's all friends and family but most haven't seen me kilted so I'm sure there will be a lot of good natured harassment. My wife is still on the edge of acceptance of kilts in every day situations. She lets me to church and dinners and other Irish related events but the daily grind isn't fully OK yet. Hopefully she'll eventually come around.

[dwg]

Well my wife is not keen, but just of late she has come to see me in a new light , I tend to dress down (a slob) but when I put one of my tartan kilts on I really dress up and try to look as smart as I can and now she will go out with me in a kilt mostly shopping but it's a good start


Derek

[Troy]

I'm really fortunate - my wife loves me wearing a kilt, and woe betide anybody who would dare to make a disparaging comment. How cool she is about it really hit home yesterday:

We getting ready to go to a party yesterday, and our (almost 8 y.o.) daughter came out of her room, saw me in my kilt, and said "Oh, Daddy, are you wearing your kilt?". She said it in a way that translated as "Oh, Daddy, why are you wearing your kilt?". I explained to her that it was a party for everybody, not just the kids, and that I like to wear my kilt to parties and other social gatherings, not just "special" occasions.

We got the impression that our daughter was a bit concerned about the way her little friends might react. Now, my daughter loves kilts and all things associated with them, but we all know how bitchy kids can be, and hate the idea of making my kids' lives more difficult that they need to be.

Straight away my wife took charge of the situation and explained that if any kids thought it was funny that I was wearing a kilt, then it was embarrasing for them, not us. She then went on to explain that if anybody asked if I wore anything under my kilt, then that was embarrassing for the person asking, because, after all, who wants to talk about other people's underwear?

She went on to explain that my kilt is a symbol of my (and our kids') heritage, and that people are allowed to wear whatever they want anyway. She finished it off by saying, "Darling, if anybody says anything rude or nasty, just say, "So what, my Daddy wears kilts, we don't make a big deal about it so why should you?"

God I love that woman!

[cgrinder]

My wife has been really great about everything. Yet she and I both are new to me wearing a kilt but she has been really supportive and even told me "It looks good." with an approving smile. She help me found the Scottish Firefighters Association and has been awesome about that as well. I don't know what I'd do if I was in some of you guys' situations. I think I would be discouraged as well. But knowing me it wouldn't last long and I'd be trying again. So to all my bretheren STAY KILTED!! int: