When I post here on XMTS

**SteveB** · 27th February 08, 09:15 PM

Well said Jamie

First of all, I am a slow typer. That means my grandchildren get a great laugh as the old man "hunts and pecks" across the keyboard. I post with my real name, my real city, and my avatar is a real time picture of me as many see me in church, on the subway, trolley, bus or in the shopping mall, library, and local fishmonger, butcher, grocer, etc. After "lurking" on this board for quite some time, it became obvious that it would be a very sane place to be. Most of us post in good humour at all times. My post count is not as high as others, as I feel that I should respect others by posting only when I have something to contribute. I make every effort to keep my posts something that I would proudly display to my family and friends. ( My sister has been known to lurk here.) My spouse often reads whilst I am clicking away. Fortunately historical debates, have stayed very cordial. I place full blame on the Moderators for keeping it so.I am as proud to be a member of XMTS as I am proud to display my clan tartan when kilted. One of these days I will get an XMTS tartan kilt, to show my pride in this "clan". I have no fear of meeting someone on the street who has read my posts, as I am not hiding. I welcome the opportunity to meet my fellow X-Markers at some time. I am scouting around for a kilt friendly venue to call for som kilt nights here in Boston and see what happens.
Cheers, Steve Brown

**Yaish** · 27th February 08, 10:30 PM

True, but lets not forget the flip side shall we?

A community is made of it's members. Make them "leave themselves at the door" too much and the members just stop going.

That's not a criticism, just a fact.

**Coemgen** · 27th February 08, 10:37 PM

When posting on internet forums, as when speaking to another person (a rare occasion for me) or writing a letter, I try to think through what I am going to say. Unfortunately, I do not always succeed in culling inappropriate material from my typings, and for those instances, if offence is caused, I do beg pardon from you all.

I will say that this is one of the most civil and polite places I've had the fortune (and, in some cases, misfortune) of finding on the internet.

**James MacMillan** · 27th February 08, 10:41 PM

Originally Posted by Coemgen

When posting on internet forums, as when speaking to another person (a rare occasion for me) or writing a letter, I try to think through what I am going to say. Unfortunately, I do not always succeed in culling inappropriate material from my typings, and for those instances, if offence is caused, I do beg pardon from you all.

I will say that this is one of the most civil and polite places I've had the fortune (and, in some cases, misfortune) of finding on the internet.

Well said.

Allow me to repeat part of that in my own voice.

I do not always succeed in culling inappropriate material from my typings, and for those instances, if offence is caused, I do beg pardon from you all.

**O'Neille** · 27th February 08, 10:45 PM

I agree, I admit to deleting a lot more than I've ever posted. My Daughter is my litmus test also, if she finds it offensive then I know it's too bad for me to read!

**Alaskan Kilted Guy** · 27th February 08, 10:51 PM

I think Jamie said it well. Heck, we all read the forum rules when we sign up. This is a family forum. There are plenty of other sites out there where you can say whatever strikes your fancy. You can go start a blog and spew your every thought and feeling on any subject. Anywho, thanks all for being part of the clan-group-forum!

**slohairt** · 28th February 08, 12:24 AM

Well said indeed, Jamie!

This is a refuge from other parts of the Internet. This is one of the few places where I can read the posts (usually

) and not get a headache from posts littered with excessive swearing, bad spelling, grammatical errors, and soon-to-be-outdated slang. The members here often have something intelligent and useful to say, and conduct themselves with good decorum. That's more than can be said about other places. We should be proud.

**David Dalglish** · 28th February 08, 12:31 AM

Well said Jamie--Post in haste, repent at leisure.

**Arlen** · 28th February 08, 01:03 AM

Well said.
Sometimes it takes a little thought to step back and realise you probably don't want to get involved in this thing or react so badly to that thing.
All in, it makes a wonderful community which is first choice for many of us.

**berserkbishop** · 28th February 08, 01:54 AM

XMTS is a lot of fun and a great place to be. I have met a lot of great people because of this forum and have become more educated on my heritage as well. I honestly think the experience on XMTS is unique to most other forums. I have been very displeased with some other forums I have been a member of so X Marks is a welcome refuge. Several times i have sat and stared at what I have written for many minutes before finally deciding to hit the sumbit button. I think that restraint and careful thought are pretty much universal on this board, largely thanks to our great Moderators. We all slip up every now and then, but overall, everyone I have ever traded posts with on this website has behaved like a gentleman or lady. Thats what keeps me coming back!

BB