Black tie question

[Nighthawk]

Sounds like you've discovered your niche!

Yeah, I've been exploiting my niche for a couple years now. Things are starting to pick up lately, though.

If the gorge of your waistcoat is reasonably high, a jabot can look just fine with an argyle (IMHO) and will lend that certain air of je ne sais, what do you call it to your rig. They are really quite easy to make- any bit of lace will do. Someday soon I am going to prepare a tutorial showing how an ordinary piece of lingerie can be converted into a jabot in mere minutes. It can be a true lifesaver.

My wife: "Why the HECK are you wearing my red teddy in your jacket?!?!

Me: "It's my new jabbot! What do you think?"

My Wife: ***SMACK!!!***

[Jock Scot]

It is not usual to wear evening(dress) wear to a wedding. It is quite normal to wear the morning suit which is the usual formal(dress) day wear(four in hand tie or cravat is worn) attire for a wedding. Whilst the coat for evening wear "white tie" does indeed have tails it should not be confused with the appropriate day dress wedding attire, the morning suit, which also has tails. The "cut" of the jackets with the tails are completely different. Be careful, a potential major faux pas is lurking!

[Lyle1]

It is not usual to wear evening(dress) wear to a wedding. It is quite normal to wear the morning suit which is the usual formal(dress) day wear(four in hand tie or cravat is worn) attire for a wedding. Whilst the coat for evening wear "white tie" does indeed have tails it should not be confused with the appropriate day dress wedding attire, the morning suit, which also has tails. The "cut" of the jackets with the tails are completely different. Be careful, a potential major faux pas is lurking!

Good advice for Scotland, but remember, the OP lives in the U.S. In many parts of this country, weddings are more likely to be held in the evening, than during the day.

[Jock Scot]

Good advice for Scotland, but remember, the OP lives in the U.S. In many parts of this country, weddings are more likely to be held in the evening, than during the day.

I had realised where the wedding was taking place, but I had not appreciated that the white tie and full evening dress was worn to weddings over there.

[JSFMACLJR]

I had realised where the wedding was taking place, but I had not appreciated that the white tie and full evening dress was worn to weddings over there.

You'll find, Jock, that evening weddings are quite common in the South. At a number of these weddings, the groom and groomsmen do wear full dress. Male guests often wear dinner jackets.

At daytime weddings over here, it is quite rare for male guests to wear morning dress, although one occasionally will see this, but certainly not in the numbers one would see at weddings in the UK.

[macwilkin]

I've seen some clergy wear a black Argyll jacket with a collared clergy shirt that looks very nice.

T.

[Jock Scot]

Thank you Sandy, I knew that you had evening weddings over there(cooler in the evenings, I suppose?), but I had no idea that the white tie and full evening dress was worn. Well, never too old to learn.

[davidlpope]

I am officiating a wedding in June, and it is black tie formal...All the men will be in coat tails, and I will be the only kilted person there.

Have you considered wearing a robe/ vestments and clerical collar? That would seem (to me) to be most fitting for the officiant at a formal wedding.

I don't think I've ever seen an officiant wearing lay "black tie" attire.

Have the bride and groom specifically asked you to wear highland attire for their wedding? If so, disregard the above and just do as they request...


Cordially,

David

[MacLowlife]

If the gorge of your waistcoat is reasonably high, a jabot can look just fine with an argyle (IMHO) and will lend that certain air of je ne sais, what do you call it to your rig. They are really quite easy to make- any bit of lace will do. Someday soon I am going to prepare a tutorial showing how an ordinary piece of lingerie can be converted into a jabot in mere minutes. It can be a true lifesaver.

[sydnie7]

My father's favorite joke: Two guys in the country club locker room.

How long have you been wearing a girdle?
Since my wife found it in the glovebox. . .

You can tell how old that one is!