Greetings all,

I am getting married next month. My sister and her husband will be attending and she contacted me, asking if her husband can wear his kilt (he was born/raised in Scotland). It is a small wedding (30 people) at a resort in Mexico. I will be wearing a suit and tie, groomsmen will be in long sleeve shirts and ties. My sister's husband is not part of the wedding party (i.e. a groomsman).

At first, I thought "sure, why not, why would I care, he can wear whatever he likes." I went to his and my sister's wedding and he wore the kilt. It looks great. He is a wonderful guy and this has nothing to do with my being able to say "no" or "have things my way." But then I thought, as this is a beach wedding, fairly casual with only me in a suit, would his presence in his groom "wedding kilt" possibly be viewed as upstaging or as detracting attention from who it should be on (the bride and groom)? How could it not possibly detract attention from the wedding party and I?

I appreciate your honest feedback.
Oscar