Unsolicited Advice For Those Unpleasant Occasions (Feel Free to Contribute)

[creagdhubh]

"--------look like an old man-------". Oi! I resemble that remark! As long as you are doing no harm to anyone, then, carry on carrying on.

Hahaha! Precisely!

[Chas]

and that they make me look like an old man.

My immediate answer would have been "Well, at least we have that in common."

[Laird_M]

Ok, first off I'm sure you are a lovely guy with many good qualities that someone, the right one, would value and cherish.

This person is obviously not happy with herself and hurting in her own mind - she is the one with the problem, not you.

When someone is unhappy they take any chance for a cheap snipe - I speak from experience, my ex was unhappy that she didn't have the 'perfect' galmour model figure, she wasn't as intelligent as others, she couldn't live the glamour model lifestyle, she had a low paid, low respect job. I got occasioanl complements from women which obviously meant I fancied them. And it was all my fault - I had a better job, higher IQ, had done more with my life, was happier in myself.

When I finally got the sense to walk out on her after 5 years of shere hell, she did everything she could to alienate everybody towards me. I was a weakling, a coward, obviously a homosexual, every bit of vitriloic she could make up, she used. I've since found out that she also had mental health issues, which I had, uncharitably, assumed she had...

Due to the experience I vowed to stay single, became introverted, gave up my hobbies, etc. but eventually learned to make peace with myself and move on.

I then met a beautiful, caring, loving lady who herself had had a bad time with a violent, abusive husband who drank, had mental health issues, and whose family blamed it all on her.

It's so easy to blame your troubles and personal unahppiness on someone else, which your ex clearly did to you.

We've now been together 8 years, married - 5, had a 2nd child. OK, life isn't always perfect, we still have arguments, we could do with more money, better neighbours, but as someone recently said "we're obviuosly very close, care a lot for each other and are a united family".

As we Buddhists say, the past is gone, the future is unseen, so leave the past where it belongs, be happy with your self and life will bring you happiness.

May the Triple Gems bless you and remember one of our meditations "May I be happy, may I be healthy, may I be well, may I be free from pain. May every being be happy, be well, be healthy, may very being be free from pain".

[TheOfficialBren]

Martin, Simon, Chas, Piper Chick, guardsman, Father Bill, et al:

Sound advice. Thank you.

Martin, make no mistake, this is not an 'ex' or 'partner' of any sort. Just a former friend.

[Stan]

OK, so they say that about 95% of women like kilts on men, and 5% don't. So, even if you take out the (potential) dying embers syndrome, every now and then you can still run into one of the 5%. This is a no sweat deal.

I'd suggest that you continue to Stand proud in your kilt (old or young), while emulating (and exuding) the spirit of the highland garment that you proudly wear. I'd just let the weak, continue to be weak, and move on.

That's my 2 cents worth......

Recently, a person (who is now a former friend due to issues unrelated to the purpose of this post) took a parting shot and said that kilts look bad on me and that they make me look like an old man.

Silence was my reply (as it ws via a random text message).

"Harumph," thought I, "that woman is the queen of idiots!"

[the former friend is female]

I sat indignantly for all of thirty seconds and decided that this was nothing more than an infantile attempt to gain some attention while the dying embers of what I came to realise was an entirely artificial relationship are smothering out.

I have come to realise that, while many times life's little bumps can give us a helluva jolt, we are usually better people to ignore such moronic behaviour but sometimes it is best-advised to offer the other buttock cheek sometimes rather than the cheek that a certain Jewish Carpenter from Galilee recommended.

How does this pertain to kilts?

Well, kilts were merely a path travelled to arrive at a destination (the insult). Sometimes when people make rude comments about our pleaty bits we must be mindful that they are likely to lash out at anything that sticks out. If I had had green hair or an affinity for Mongolian Throat Singing (mind-blowing, btw) or some other oddball thing then THAT would have had a proverbial target painted on it.

This person is very small, petty, and sad. I hope that they find happiness. I just don't plan to be there (nor do I want them present for my celebrations).


In the end, the world is full of dolts of every size and shape. Karma has her own hitlist.

Stay kilted, my friends. Tartan, tweed...yes, even those Utilikillmenow things.

Wear it proud. Wear it loud. Wear it quietly. Wear it defiantly. JUST WEAR IT!!!

[MacGumerait]

Bren ,

Here is one way to look at it .

Samson slew a thousand Philistines with the jawbone of an a** .

This person seems to slay friendships with the same " jawbone " .

Best , Mike

[TheOfficialBren]

I certainly am not wallowing in any self-pity of any kind but thank you all for the kind words.
Yes, Mike. Spot-on.
Not a single tear shed or a wink of sleep has been lost. Some people are just not true friend material.