This is the appropriate place...

[Donnie]

I think you are doing a fine job, Highlandtide. If the forum wasn't moderated at all there would probably be quite a few more of us getting p**t off and leaving! Somebody's gotta do it!

[highlandtide]

I agreed with most of what you said, but on that one point, you are wrong. First off, I don't know how long "quite a while" is to you, but there has been rudeness here within the past few weeks. A lot of times the problem is not "patched up" instead it is ignored. The thread is cut off and nothing is resolved.

If you are talking about the under the kilt thing from an ex's mom, everyone has already agreed that you blew that out of proportion. You were also apologized to. Your problem is you cant drop it, that will be proven by any response you make to this. The person in question never meant any harm and the comments were taken out of context. And also I think you are paranoid if you think there are people on this forum more popular than others. There are factions, I will give you that. But popularity? What is this, Middle School?

I think that a lot of what happens here is a miscommunication due to cultural differences. We may all speak English (most of us anyway) but we still have different ways of saying the same thing.

When I was told "Nice try, Jimmy" and the posts were deleted like I was trying to pull some Larry Flint action over on the site... I was pretty p***ed-off. And I still am.

Man Jimmy. I am apologizing in public for you misunderstanding all that. You actually said in the post with Daisy Duke in it "Lets see if Hank will let me get away with this." That is why I wrote "Nice try Jimmy." It was a freaking Joke just like you always pull. Then I cam back and exsplained how if you wanted to post that in the off-topic that that would be fine but those threads were hi-jacking a kilt post with non-kilt stuff.

This one actually upsets me and, I am saying this publicly, b/c I thought we were friends regardless of this stupid forum. We know each other in real life and I really hope we arent going to let a joke gone awry ruin that. How can I come to Philly next Feb if my bud is mad at me?

It is a shame to lose anyone over something that may have been worked out.

It is also ashame that so many people get their feelings on their shoulders over what someone else says or does over the internet.

I want people to realize that I have never nor will ever delete a post for just b/c I dont like someone. If you take it too personally I am sorry but if it gets moved or deleted there is a reason for it and I stand by that. This is now the most popular kilt website on the net and it is b/c you guys have made it that. But I will not let this become a freel for all (as I have said many times). Now more than ever with people advertising here I have to really keep an eye on content and I am not sorry for that.

[Casey]

Hank,

You're right that this is the palce to have this discussion, in order not to taint the other posts.

Thank you for drawing the line even if I don't agree or others don't agree. We can discuss it here.

Jimmy,

Good to hear from you again. I was just thinking of thoses pictures of you and Hank together. They are some of my favourites.

Casey

[Colin]

Hank, as someone who has had a few posts deleted, I would like to chime in. I have been involved in a few heated conversations, particularly regarding certain kilt accessories, and censorship. I was a little disappointed that these posts or threads were frozen or deleted, but it is you forum, and I now agree with that course of action. In both those cases all parties involved were too engroosed in our own points of view. While I do agree with Alaskan that some of these issues do need to be resolved by the parties involved, it is not fair to the rest of the members to have to wait for us to be the adults that we all are.

One of the issues with moderation on this site that I see is not with you Hank, but with ourselves. A few months ago Alaskan posted a thread asking that we respect our people's posts and threads. I we do not agree with the subject matter (be it religion, politics, body art, etc) that we not add a negative comment to that thread. I could not agree more. Too often we just want to add our voice (some of us more than others ) and we post our disapproval for a subject matter. This is simply adding fuel to the fire, and will eventually cause someone to respond to your comment. If you don't agree with something, or you don't find it interesting, skip over it, and don't feel that you need to add your 2 cents. I know that there will be different opinions on any subject matter, but some times to maintain the peace we have to be the bigger people and just ignore it. I will use a recent example a new member has join (sorry JazzKiltz!) and introduced themselves. This thread has turned into a common appreciation for jazz lovers. I am not fond of jazz (just my opinion), but instead of voicing that opinon in that thread, I have decided to just skip that post and move on to the next on.

In regards to your photos Jimmy, I had a good laugh, but seeing as how the majority of us seem to be a passionate bunch, the photos may have offended someone (via religion, personal beliefs,etc). I hope you will not keep your presense on the board over something so stupid. Pour yourself a pint, light a smoke and just chill out a bit. We need your humour in defusing some situations.

Sorry, a bit of a rant here.

[beverlonian]

And no beverlonian... it's not having a tantrum or whatever in the h*ll you're trying to suggest. It's merely respecting the board owner, the readers, and the content that's appropriate for this site. Since my methods are not what is appropriate, then I have the alternate method of relaying helpful information through PMs. Period.

Jimmy, glad you're still here. It appeared you had left and the fact you have posted again shows you didn't "have a tantrum". However, others have done and left. I look forward to your further posts which I have always found interesting.

[Freelander Sporrano]

Was it Nelson Mandela that said "We have to learn to Forget" or was that "Forgive" Either one would fit in this case.

So you lot! Forgive and forget.

The man has said sorry in public

[bubba]

Sometimes we all tend to take ourselves far too seriously. Life is to important and far too short for that.

[Graham]

Sometimes we all tend to take ourselves far too seriously. Life is to important and far too short for that.

true Bubba, and the older one gets, the more one realises that.

[Alaskan]

If you are talking about the under the kilt thing from an ex's mom, everyone has already agreed that you blew that out of proportion. You were also apologized to. Your problem is you cant drop it, that will be proven by any response you make to this.

I wasn't referring to any one incident in particular, but since you brought it up... everyone didn't agree, that I blew it out of proportion, just some people who are vocal members on this forum. I won't deny that I have a hard time dropping it. When someone says something offensive about people that are important to me, I don't let it slide, and when a thread is deleted and no resolution has been reached, the offending person will just do the same thing again. As I said before... saying "I'm sorry." is not always an apology. When you follow up with "Ligten up." it is a transferance of blame and a refusal to accept responsibility for what you have done.

And also I think you are paranoid if you think there are people on this forum more popular than others. There are factions, I will give you that. But popularity? What is this, Middle School?

With what just happened in the Madonna thread in the Rkilts section, I would say that it is easy to see that there is a bit of the middle school mentality prevalent.

I think that a lot of what happens here is a miscommunication due to cultural differences.

I agree with you on that point. Again, if we aren't allowed to carry our disagreements and arguments through to some kind of resolution we will never understand the intricacies of some of our cultural differences and the same problems will just reappear.

[Calico Jack]

I can kind of see what you are talking about in the R Kilt section on the Madonna post. I think things still get blown out of proportion far too easily sometimes though ( No particular incidents ). I don't think that anyone is above being told that they are rude or what not, and there are surely times when some people deserve to be told that they are. I whole heartedly agree that if our discussion and arguments aren't allowed to work out (so long as they aren't getting abusive or violent) then we are never going to get anywhere. I also think that everyone should sit back for 5 minutes before posting any reply to a topic that may raise an argument, for your sake and everyone elses.

Now something a bit off but still:
I encourage everyone to laugh a little each day, no matter how foul a mood you find yourself in. Laughter, good for the body, soul and mind.

P.S. It is a scientific fact that it takes more muscles to frown than to smile. Hope you have a good day!