Help wanted

**Bob C** · 12th August 05, 04:20 PM

This is a no-brainer. Good women are hard to find.

It's not like she says you can't EVER wear your kilt. Don't push the everyday thing.

Besides, as young as you are, chances are that she's not your lifetime partner, anyway. Trust me on that one.

**Archangel** · 12th August 05, 06:51 PM

Originally Posted by Bob C.

Besides, as young as you are, chances are that she's not your lifetime partner, anyway. Trust me on that one.

okay, so you're obviously not the first choice for chaplain.....

**Riverkilt** · 12th August 05, 07:02 PM

I agree with Gator....you get a better kilt on than SportKilt she'll probably be less resistant. Big difference in the look of a contemporary kilt or a traditional kilt from the SportKilt...

Hang in,

Ron

**Bob C** · 12th August 05, 07:16 PM

Originally Posted by Archangel

okay, so you're obviously not the first choice for chaplain.....

Truer words have seldom been spoken.

**Alan H** · 12th August 05, 08:15 PM

There's the respect issue.

You can, and should LISTEN to what she says. Make it clear that you are listening when you talk over the kilt issue.

You should CARE about what she thinks. To pretend to listen and just do it because it's a convenient act to make yourself look concerned is bull. CARE what she thinks.

You should strongly CONSIDER what she says. You treat the woman you love with respect, and you keep in mind what her ideas are.

And in the end, weighing all the information, YOU make YOUR decision..

The thing is, if you really want to wear a kilt and she's not comfortable with it, then she can tell you about it, and how she feels. Listen to her. However, she has no right to tell you what to do. Do you have a right to tell HER what to do all the time? Will she let you tell her what clothes to wear? Fat bloody chance!! It goes both ways.

If after listening to what she says, caring about her opinion and feelings about it, and taking into consideration what she has to say, you decide to wear a kilt now than then, that's your right. You dont' have to be a jerk about it, you know? For example, if you're going to her sisters for a big party, and you know it's a special night for her and she'll have more fun if you're not kilted, it won't KILL you to put on pants that night. That's what I mean by taking her concerns and feelings into account.

But in the end, what you wear is your decision. YOU should make it.

The flat out truth is, in time a man that let's his woman make central decisions like that for him, will lose her respect. If kilts result in a face-to-face fight, well then, my friend...fight. A relationship that can't weather a face-to-face, gloves off but FAIR fight will not make it when the going gets tough, believe me. Fight fair, but fight.

So, LISTEN, CARE and CONSIDER, and then make your own decision, tempered with love and respect. When you make your decision stick to it and fight for it. You will come out ahead on all counts.

Thus saith Alan H, sheesh.

toadinakilt · 15th August 05, 09:30 AM

Alan, thank you. Guys, thank you. It always helps me to discuss things with other people, and believe me, this has helped a lot. I am very, very glad I found this forum.

I'll post again on this topic in like 6 months or so, just to let ya'll know how things turn out. :-)

Thanks again.

**GatorUK** · 15th August 05, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by Alan H

If after listening to what she says, caring about her opinion and feelings about it, and taking into consideration what she has to say, you decide to wear a kilt now than then, that's your right. You dont' have to be a jerk about it, you know? For example, if you're going to her sisters for a big party, and you know it's a special night for her and she'll have more fun if you're not kilted, it won't KILL you to put on pants that night. That's what I mean by taking her concerns and feelings into account.

I agree with Alan and remember this goes both ways too. Sooo, when you want her to wear that special purchase you made at Victoria's Secret, remind her of when you wore the trousers especially for her!

On a related note gentlemen...if you want to experience superior customer service, just wear your kilt into the aforementioned establishment the next time you are gift shopping for her.

toadinakilt · 15th August 05, 09:48 AM

Originally Posted by GatorUK

...when you want her to wear that special purchase you made at Victoria's Secret, remind her of when you wore the trousers especially for her!

Oi, that'll have to wait a few years, Gator :-D
No sex 'til we're married, that's what we're both committed to. But AFTER...I'll be sure and remember your advice