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[TheSp8]

Well, I didn't get one till we'd been married 22 years. I'd always liked the look but couldn't figure a reason to wear one. Then while searching for something else I found this board. After lurking and learning for a bit I started talking about wearing a kilt more. Now I have 1 UK and 3 traditional style kilts. For about two months now I've been kilted unless wearing my uniform and my wife likes the look. Now our son has an Amerikilt at college and she thinks he looks good.

Of course, my wife was used to seeing me sitting around the house in a breech clout making moccasins or sewing shooting pouches. Yes, I live part-time in the 18th century. We both have our eccentricities and are understanding and they make life interesting. Mostly though, I have a jewel of a wife.

YMOS,
Tony

[Splash_4]

Like many others, my wife encouraged me to order a kilt when we visited Scotland last year and I balked! Then we visited two highland games and again she encouraged me to order one... finally I relented and orderd a SWK in the black Stewart. Unfortunately, it is sitting at home in a box whilst I am on a business trip....

[Rex_Tremende]

Hey neighbor...

Is there anything I can do to help?

P.M. me if there is.

Regards,
Rex in Westwood.

[Blu (Ontario)]

Many women like the sight of a man in a kilt... as long as it's not their man! Their imaginations run wild with thoughts such as....

-It's not what other normal men are wearing - is he going strange on me?
-What will other people think... especially my friends?
-Men are only allowed to wear pants.... what does he think he's doing?
-What's next?.... pantyhose and high heels?
-How am I going to explain this to my family...my freinds.... other people?
-I don't want that kind of attention...

The air needs to be cleared of such concerns if full acceptance is to become a reality. Take it slowly and educate, educate, educate. Be persitant if it's an important thing in your life.


or the other approach


Get the dang kilt and wear the heck out of it. If she gives you any guff... threaten to roast marshmallows over a bonfire made of all the pants she owns.

[bikercelt1]

Get the dang kilt and wear the heck out of it. If she gives you any guff... threaten to roast marshmallows over a bonfire made of all the pants she owns.

OKAY,,,!!! You just got me into the "spew on the computer screen" club!! Good one Blu!

My wife has been supportive from the first day I put the kilt on. She has second thoughts about the money I spend on kilts and kilt related stuff, but her only real concern is that I'll get into trouble with my employer when I wear the kilt on the few "special" days that he allows it. I keep trying to push the envelope and he keeps trying to seal it shut and mail it away.

Jamie

[Livingston]

I think Blu's second option is the best

We had been going to the Highland Games at Estes Park for several years and I had kept saying I was going to get a kilt. Finally, I TOLD her that if my commisions were at the right level in March I was going to order one in April. Well, I ordered it in May instead, got it AFTER the Estes games in Sept 04 and have worn it off and on since. Have 2 now. Still trying to get her to accept it and go out and about with me. I think the Holiday Party this year might do it

[Pour1Malt]

weel... there is always the option o' dumpin her an marryin' a Scottish Lass....


worked fur me!!!

[Martin S]

I was training full contact fighting hard core at the time, and the team started wearing Sportkilts.

Veering off subject a bit ...
but I think if it were more widely known that sports teams wore kilts at times, it would be a huge leap ahead for acceptance by the general public.
The image of tough fighting men is probably at the far end of the spectrum from what most people think of when they hear of a soft (?) effeminate (?) skirted oddity.
I'm not keen on the product, but I think "Sportkilt" has the best trade name around. Get them making something decent, and take a note out of Utilikilts marketing schemes, and then kilting will no longer be scorned by the village idiots.

Back on topic; my French wife never found anything strange about my kilt wearing, likes GB, and rarely makes any comments about my attire.
We never tried to play the typical married couple, or care very much about what other people thought about our oddity.

Martin

[cavscout]

Get the dang kilt and wear the heck out of it. If she gives you any guff... threaten to roast marshmallows over a bonfire made of all the pants she owns.

BwaaaaHaHaaaaaaaa!

Perfect. I've been using the wrong approach.

[Captain]

I started wearing one early June of this year. I had thought about it for years but thought I could not afford it. I did not know about the "off the rack" models. My wife was the one that encouraged it and found Semaus' site Sport Kilt. She ordered me a USA fashion tartan kilt. When it got here & I tried it on she totally changed. It was a case of "OK now put it away and you can were it to ren-fairs."

Not on your life! I was hooked.

She always referred to my kilt as my skirt & my sporran as my purse.

She pitched a fit & got real agitated anytime I wore it out saying she was embarrassed to be seen with me in public. One time we were going to the zoo and she asked what I was wearing. I told her "a kilt of course". She got out the most outlandish clothes she could muster up and even stuck a purple feather boa through her back belt loops for a tail. When it was obvious this did not phase me (and it really did not)she took it all off & dresses normally.

Now I have 3 kilts. 2 of these from Sport Kilt. I have 2 more on order from another supplier with my eye on a total of 18 from Sport Kilt, USA Kilts, Freedom & others. Within the next year I hope to get Matt Newson to make me one in the Clan Skene tartan and the Tennessee tartan after that.

Within the last 2 weeks it seems she has not as much animosity to the kilt. I think she is slowly accepting the fact that kilts are my normal casual and formal wear. Last night we went to dinner at a nice Italian restaurant and did some shopping at Target. She made no negative comments.

I love my wife. I do not like ANY confrontation, but like my beard, I am not giving up my kilts for anybody. That's just me.

Each relationship is different. My technique has been to just not give it up.

I've been having a pretty similar problem. My wife and I have been married for 5 1/2 years (and we've got our first little one on the way), but she has known that I've wanted a kilt since before we got married, I wanted to get married in a kilt, but due to costs ended up married in a suit... so it's not like she had no idea. She just always used the lack of money as an excuse...

Then I found cheap kilts. I have a UK, and I'll be ordering a Stillwater Standard shortly, but she all of a sudden can't stand the idea of a kilt. She says I embarrass her and I obviously don't care how she feels about it... To which I replied that she cares a lot more about what complete strangers think about us/me then she cares what I think... and it just went downhill from there.

Then she pulled the, "It makes you look effeminate/People will think you're effeminate..."

Ha I say! I'm 6' and 250 lbs (not quite as much muscle as I had in college at the same weight, but still...), I enjoy various types of sport shooting and have trained in multiple martial arts... If some one wants to say that I'm a girlie-man they're more than welcome to that opinion. I know the truth, and isn't that what matters?

So anytime I wear the kilt, she assumes I'm doing it to piss her off... I guess one day she'll figure out the truth. The truth is, I do it to make sure everyone knows I really don't care what they think and because its the most comfortable darn thing in the world.

I find it interesting because we have a standing rule since we started dating that while we may express opinions, we don't exert any kind of pressure/influence over each other's chosen hair style and in my case, facial hair... It's always been a point of pride in our relationship that we give each other that freedom...I assumed it carried over to clothing (it always has from me to her... even when she wanted to wear her bib overalls...). I even told her during the last kilt argument that if she wanted to wear clothes made of flour sacks then I really wouldn't care, and if strangers gave me guff about it, I'd tell them I married the best woman in the world cuz she doesn't care about what other people say about her, she's just true to herself... Oh well...

Sorry for the ramble, I don't actually have anyone here to complain about this too... Stupid Texans don't understand the kilt either (well, not most of them)...