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    I'd say wear the kilt when you want unless she has specifically requested you not to wear it when you come to her house. If you intend to stay with this girl what really counts in your relationship is that your girl ought to feel comfortable with you wearing what you choose. Not wishing to be a party pooper but your life will probably take a lot of strange twists - when I was 17 I had already been going out with my teenage sweetheart for two years and we were already beginning to discuss a future together. Yet just before my 21st birthday and when we were on the point of becoming officially engaged, she suddenly and unexpectedly moved away with a new partner leaving her dad to break the news to me. She never did get in touch with any explanation. After that I met Ann for the first time when I was 23 and went out with her for a year or so. Then we drifted apart and I married someone else, fathered a daughter, got divorced and started dating Ann again then eventually at the age of 32 I got married to Ann and we are still together and I'm now 55.
    Regional Director for Scotland for Clan Cunningham International, and a Scottish Armiger.

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    I think she's testing you to see if you'll stand up for yourself.

    If you don't stand up to her, your mother-in-law will make a nice, comfortable doormat out of you.

    Oh, and if M-I-L just doesn't like you and she's determined to make your life miserable, she's going to do that anyway.

    Would your wife-to-be consider moving to another state?

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    IMOP, I think it would received better if it was a real kilt and sporran (and, eventually, everything else). I bet it is hard to convince somebody that you're wearing a kilt when it is obviously homemade and sporran-less.

    I bet that once you get a good ensemble together, it will go over easier with everybody.

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    I think you'll be happier and feel more confident when you have your outfit the way you want it. I know how it is living on a student's budget, but there are some decent and inexpensive kilts, sporrans, etc. out there.

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    Dump her!

    Dump the girlfriend. Her family is hostile. It is not about the kilt it is about their ability to manipulate you. By the time I was in first grade I chose what clothes to wear, so should you. You are being insulted. Without the support of both families you are unlikely to have a long happy life togather. I can promise you this that the potential mother-in-law will do everything in her power to break you up. The hassle is not worth it.

    Dump the girlfriend find someone else.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sir Robert View Post
    ... It is not about the kilt, it is about the ability to manipulate you.
    true statement.

    ... You are being insulted.
    true statement.

    ... the potential mother-in-law will do everything in her power to break you up.
    Quite possible... I have a cousin that married a woman with a manipulative mother... marriage started downhill after the first year despite a distance of a thousand miles from home.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sir Robert View Post
    Dump the girlfriend find someone else.
    I don't know that I'd go that far - yet.

    However, I will say this:

    At the tender age of 17, you've got far more troubles in your life than dealing with a woman who may or may not eventually become your mother-in-law.

    Deal with those more important issues (the primaries near the bottom of Maslow's hierarchy of needs) first, and then worry about the future mother-in-law.

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    I too would say wait few years to get married. Marriage is, or should be, a life long commitment.
    "A day spent in the fields and woods, or on the water should not count as a day off our allotted number upon this earth."
    Jerry, Kilted Old Fart.

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    Families are an extremely important part of a relationship - more than you probably can imagine right now. I have prolonged a relationship with a girl because I loved her family, and also ended one in part because I didn't, and her family caused huge problems between us. Friction with the family can be a very large problem - especially if she's close to them.

    The key here is give it time. Right now her parents think you're just a stupid 17 year old kid and don't take anything you do seriously - including your relationship with their daughter. When you both get a bit older, things could get better. Spend some time with them, and try to view them as friends and relatives than just your girlfriends parents. Show them that you're a mature individual who is proud of who he is - not some kid that's wearing a kilt just to be different. That could take years, but if she's really the one, then it's worth it.

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    WAIT, For the love Of God Man! WAIT to be kilted with the parents.
    And WAIT to get Married. There is a great big kilted world out there.
    Enjoy it a bit as a single kilted Man....Then when you are old enough (21) then think about it.
    “Live each season as it passes; breathe the air, taste the fruit, drink the drink, and resign yourself to the influences of each.” H.D. Thoreau

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