Is this how you feel?

[GMan]

I can see the man's response I know many people who feel that it is all part of who they are as a couple.

Now I personally feel (also being a single guy when I got Kilted) that I wear the Kilt for myself.

[Kornbread]

Martin S., I am secure enough with my manhood and to wear whatever I want to wear ,with or without my wife.Others negative opinions of me,effect me not at all.

[Eujeankilt]

Martin,

It looks like you've gotten a wide array of opinions here. It seems to me that we Americans tend to be more individualistic and worry less about what others think, we wear the kilt for ourselves.

I also took it that the question was asked with curiousity, not in forming a judgement. Might you ask the gent, with respect, the next time about his motivation? At least you'd know one way or the other.


Dale

[Nick]

I'm quite comfortable wearing the kilt all by my onesy. I'm almost always the only one in a kilt in the room, with or without my wife.

[Roan Carter]

In all honesty, I've been an idiot and worn my kilt too often and wound up in trouble for it on several occassions.

I love them so much, and I'm just 21, so I can pretty much get away with wearing whatever I want in my own time.

I decide on wether or not I am wearing the kilt on any given day right about when I wake up, based almost solely on what I feel like wearing.

As for being bothered about my kilt -- I find that being with a lady doesn't help very much. Being with a pack of guy friends tends to keep the taunters at bay though.

[PiobBear]

Is this the way you Xmarkers feel about kilt-wearing? Do you have to be accompanied to appear in public?

Nope; I wear the kilt quite often; usually several times a week, most of the time solo, although I have worn it on occasion to accompany someone else who feels self-concious being the only kilt in the room.

another fellow drove some 150 kms...he wore shorts for the journey and changed on arrival, and before departure to return home. The usual excuse for this is they don't want to spoil their kilts, but I really think it is the fear of having to stop on route and being seen kilted.

A lot of guys in our band do this. Depending upon the weight and weave of the cloth, long drives can play havoc with the pleats. My Saxony wool kilt's the worst in this regard; my acrylic SWK the best, and my traditional worsted wool somewhere in between.

I have no fear at all of being seen in public kilted; if anyone asks, I actually am a piper, and it's another opportunity to hand out a business card.

[PiobBear]

...any night I wore my kilt, my partner and I would have to answer a barrage of questions about the kilt. Eventually I found some quiet corner of a bar where I could remain incognito and relax and be myself. Although I have always enjoyed frequently wearing the kilt I feel that at times there are pressures that go along with wearing it. Does any other member feel the same?

I think that it's incumbent upon you to know a bit of the background of the kilt and the tartan you're wearing, but that's not a heavy burden for me; I like having an intelligent conversation with someone about history and tradition over a pint; more interesting (to me) than football, and much safer than politics or religion. I do, however, find the constant insipid refrain of "The Question" quite tiresome.

[Mike1]

This attack was unprovoked and unfair.

Attack? You're joking, right?

Martin asked the man why he didn't wear the kilt and he got an answer.

However it it doesn't necessarily seem to me that the answer he received was adequate, otherwise why ask raise the point here? (And please note that I said it doesn't seem that way TO ME, which will should indicate to you that I am speaking about my own observations and opinions. I am allowed to do that, right?)

Your response presupposes that Martin had bad intent when there is no evidence of that. You should apologize.

Read my response again -

Sorry, but some of you really leave me wondering about the level tolerance you demonstrate. I see so many of you crying out for wives, co-workers, employers and the man in the street to be tolerant of your desire to kilts. Only to then turn around and demonstrate a total lack of reciprocity, when it comes to another individual's wishes.

I have to chuckle at times to see how a man wants to wear a kilt as a statement of non-conformity, yet that same man will turn around and belittle another man for wearing his kilt differently.

Maybe it's not about individuality after all...

So tell me, Bob, where do you see me singling out anyone, Martin in particular?

I expect I'll get a demerit for criticizing the moderator...

And that was me, thinking you were just being humorous today. Can I get you another cup of coffee, BTW?

...but I call 'em as I see 'em.

Be careful doing that, as you're liable to have someone call you out for making attacks that are unprovoked and unfair.

Try to have a nice afternoon.

[Captain]

Even though we regard our kilts as masculine, we still have some subconscious feeling of sexual ambiguity.

What's this "we" stuff?? I have no feelings of sexual ambiguity because of my kilt wearing (or for any other reason for that matter)... I'm pretty comfortable in my masculine, heterosexuality and I have no problem with people of different genders, preferences, whatever...

And since the wife hates kilts... I certainly have no problem going out kilted alone... if I did I'd never go kilted!

[ozone]

"My mention of a friend who told me he would not go out alone in a kilt, was not to ridicule him. I really think he wears a kilt to the dance club just to be like other members and perhaps even to please us all."

All I have to say to that comment is " I want to be different, just like everyone else" --King Missile (from their Mystical S**t album).

But in all seriousness, I have to admit that I was at first apprehensive about wearing a kilt without my wife or friend(s) around. However, I got more comfortable the more compliments I received. Recently, while skiing kilted (see my video in the show us yer pics thread), I got some wolf whistles and sarcastic "nice skirt" comments while walking up to the ski slopes. I found myself not caring and I ignored the rude comments and spoke with people who gave me nice comments.

It's also fun to wander around Aspen's rarefied atmosphere and have people in mink coats and designer jeans look at little 'ol me rather than the nearby celebrity.