Kilted Parenting

[SportBilly]

Oh yes, "second grader pez type sgian dubh" ...precious! I will send you one!

You forgot the Batman bit

[SexyButler]

I'm assuming (yes, yes, I know....) that "Dad" is expressing the "no son of mine is gonna wear a skirt" type mentality. If that's the case I would also arm the lad with knowledge before I gave him a kilt or a sgian (BTW, I would suggest a Sgian Don't of some kind first, maybe a comb or even a bubble blower loop if he's young enough) so he'll be able to understand himself and be able to answer questions from his curious peers and the occasional "A$$hat" who needs to be put straight.

My 2 cents worth.

We can discuss this Saturday at Natashas!

[Glaisne]

Anyone know why my posts are being mod'ed?

I will repeat my earlier post that didn't make it.

Di, I've got the wee one's backs as well.

[Livingston]

Anyone know why my posts are being mod'ed?

I will repeat my earlier post that didn't make it.

Di, I've got the wee one's backs as well.

Glaisne, If you look at the T's & C's and the rules on this site, you will notice that when someone new signs up their posts are automatically delayed for a possible review for a while. You're posts aren't modified, just delayed for a while before they show. After you've been here a while they will be up right away.

[SexyButler]

No worries! Understandable! Just a family member expressing love!
All you need is love!

Now,
I think I will kilt me boy!

[GreenDragon]

i'm very proud of my Irish heritage. (probably the main reason i like the Kilt. though my only link to my family geneology is my mom and she isn't sure of our heritage.) And i plan on instilling this in my children (son is almost 3, daughter is 1) My wife's problem with my wearing the kilt around the kids is that she thinks it might confuse them (ie: why is dad wearing a skirt?)

[Mr. MacDougall]

Kids at that age ask questions because they're still learning the rules. "Why is dad wearing a skirt" is best answered with, "well, it's a special kind of skirt, called a Kilt, worn by men."

[graham_s]

"why is mommy wearing trousers?"
equally valid question

[Makeitstop]

I don't have any kids, but having grown up with divorced parents, I know quite a bit about that kind of situation.

Like it or not, there will be two different sets of rules for the kid, and he will know it. It's important to respect the other parent's rules, but he must do the same. If the kid wants to wear a kilt, and dad doesn't like it, then a fair compromise is to allow him to wear a kilt at your house, but keep it far away from dad's place. Don't make a big deal out of it, and try to avoid any kind of conflict. Try not to contradict dad, but correct any misinformation the kid might have been given by him. It's a delicate balance, but ultimately your obligation is to your son, and as long as you aren't putting him in the middle of a fight, and just try to be a responsible parent, it shouldn't be too big of a problem.

I would suggest avoiding the sgian dubh. The way I see it, a sgian is a bit too fun for a kid's first knife. Kid's like playing with knives, and it's better to start them off with something along the lines of a swiss army knife, which is a little less dangerous and more functional. It helps to get them thinking about how to use the item as a tool, rather than how cool it is and how they want to play with it. Let's face it, no one has ever tried to juggle swiss army knives. And obviously, even that should only be if the kid is ready for it.

I would make sure the kid knows up front that if he gets a kilt, he won't necessarily be getting the knives too.

A sgian don't is a better idea, but make sure to explain that others use them too (if he's anything like I was as a kid, you may need pictures to prove it) and you aren't just being a lame, overprotective mom who lives to ruin his fun.

[Finn]

My son is fourteen weeks old, but he'll be getting kilted soon enough. Mom & I will disagree about the tartan, but even if we parted, she would still kilt him.
My eldest bio daughter had to learn about kilts when she first saw me in mine. She quickly learned to say, "unbifurcated" and is supportive now.
Good luck, Di!