So now I'm a Peacock!

**jrmiller** · 10th March 09, 09:06 AM

BroosterB1,

My wife has had a similar reaction to my kilts. In my case, this has been going on for a year and a half. It's not going away, but I have been respectful of her feelings and do my best not to embarrass her with some folks.

Recently, while I was away for an extended period, she sought counseling and they determined that her "ick" feelings and so forth were related to her own self-esteem. She is now doing things to enhance her own self-esteem and has given my an all clear on kilts.

Something to think about -----

**thescot** · 10th March 09, 11:39 AM

Originally Posted by jrmiller

BroosterB1,

My wife has had a similar reaction to my kilts. In my case, this has been going on for a year and a half. It's not going away, but I have been respectful of her feelings and do my best not to embarrass her with some folks.

Recently, while I was away for an extended period, she sought counseling and they determined that her "ick" feelings and so forth were related to her own self-esteem. She is now doing things to enhance her own self-esteem and has given my an all clear on kilts.

Something to think about -----

Congratulations, John. Not only has your problem gotten better, but you are obviously married to a terrific woman who is trying to fix the problem instead of fixing the blame! We are envious of you. Revel in your good choices of mate. Take her to diner. Buy her diamonds. Wine and dine her and tell her that you are so happy that you got her!

But the trouble is that before you can "fix" the problem, one has to admit that there is a problem--the First Step. And most won't take that step.

**LewisG** · 10th March 09, 09:31 AM

My wife says I am a peacock too. I am fortunate in that my wife has always liked my kilts and likes me to wear them. She even asked me to wear my kilt for our open house at Christmas. However, she has commented that she wishes there was more Scottish attire for women. She has not been able to find a tartan skirt that she likes. She does have a sash in her tartan and has 3 large velvet Scottish bonnets with feathers. Perhaps getting your wife something to go along with your kilts might make her happier with you wearing them.

**cessna152towser** · 10th March 09, 10:06 AM

Well if your wife says you are a peacock she will just have to treat you to a kilt in the Peacock tartan:-
http://www.tartanregister.gov.uk/tar....aspx?ref=3308

**piperdbh** · 10th March 09, 10:58 AM

At first I thought this was going to be about Captain Peacock on "Are You Being Served?" (please, no jokes about Mrs. Slocum)

You might mention to your lovely spouse that your tired of men always looking at her and decided to wear the kilt to draw unwanted attention away from her, because yes, you ARE jealous and you cherish her so much that you want to be the ONLY one beholding her radiance.

It's worth a try, at least, even if she doesn't fall for it.

**Nighthawk** · 10th March 09, 11:06 AM

Originally Posted by piperdbh

At first I thought this was going to be about Captain Peacock on "Are You Being Served?" (please, no jokes about Mrs. Slocum)

You might mention to your lovely spouse that your tired of men always looking at her and decided to wear the kilt to draw unwanted attention away from her, because yes, you ARE jealous and you cherish her so much that you want to be the ONLY one beholding her radiance.

It's worth a try, at least, even if she doesn't fall for it.

Any woman with any sense will see right through that. I'd just say that I'm tired of wearing jeans like my 13 year old daughter, and wanted to wear something manly for a change. The Roman Legions conquered the entire known world wearing skirts.

And then ask her why it's OK for her to wear pants, but a problem for you to wear a kilt. I was once told that pants are for men and that I should be wearing that. I looked at the guys girlfriend and said "I'm sorry, sir, I mistook you for a woman- but you are obviously a man, since you're dressed like one." And I walked away to the sound of a cackling woman and slackjawed man.

**bricelythgoe** · 10th March 09, 03:45 PM

I am in a similar position. My wife, although not as vocal with her objections, probably thinks the same way. As long as I don't wear it to the in-laws she seems to be fine! I figure the more I wear, the more she will get used it. Once she gets used to it, she will start to like it. Once she starts to like it, she will want to see more of it. I wonder if that will ever happen... (sorry thinking out loud here)

Brice

**sorcererdale** · 10th March 09, 08:21 PM

There's been times now when someone makes a comment about my kilt and my wife says, "Oh, I didn't even notice you have it on." She always did like them, though.

DALE.

Originally Posted by bricekolob

I am in a similar position. My wife, although not as vocal with her objections, probably thinks the same way. As long as I don't wear it to the in-laws she seems to be fine! I figure the more I wear, the more she will get used it. Once she gets used to it, she will start to like it. Once she starts to like it, she will want to see more of it. I wonder if that will ever happen... (sorry thinking out loud here)

Brice

**thescot** · 10th March 09, 11:34 AM

I think there really is a bit of the peacock in all of us. And that's OK. At least my ex-wife ws OK with it and enjoyed guys in kilts.

But now, . . . well, that another story for another day.

I really doubt you'll ever get out of this one. People just don't change that type of thinking very often. So, I'd say you need to figure out a relatively happy medium with your wife. Of course she's prettier of course she turns heads, of course she really does get the attention. But in her mind, it's not so. And her perception of reality is her reality.

So doll her up, take her out, and try to figure out how to wear your kilt without making a big fuss. It's really not a big deal to any of us, but it apparently is to her. Better figure out how to deal with it now.

God love 'em. Can't live with 'em, and can't kill 'em.

**Phogfan86** · 10th March 09, 03:33 PM

"...a fourth (unspoken) reason may be that when wearing a kilt, you attract other women."

No more calls, please. We have a winner.

Brooster, I did see you're post about your wife talking with a therapist. Sounds like she's gotten to the root of the problem. But I had to point this fourth reason out. My wife has also been "tolerant" -- good word for it -- and is now discovering the attention I get from other women when we're out. I'm not so sure she's okay with it, but she hasn't said a word. Yet.

And trust me: I'm nothing to write home about. I'm a little chubby guy, but when I've got m'kilt, I carry myself differently, and I think that kind of confidence gets noticed.