Wedding Wear

**denmcdough** · 14th March 10, 05:53 AM

Most Americans are totally oblivious to proper kilt attire. I was oblivious until I found XMTS and started to learn from everyone. Hey, if you have no reference point of proper Scottish dress, than one will do whatever they learn from movies, TV, people around them, etc. That becomes the norm; that's, now, acceptable. It's like a child growing up in a house with violence...that's what they learn. Well, most homes in the USA do not have kilts or any inkling as to what is proper. So, wearing a kilt becomes whatever you want it to be, sorry to say.

As for wearing the PC/kilt at a wedding, well, yes, check with the bride. However, if people expect it, then go for it. I see nothing wrong...life is what you make of it, and if you show up at a wedding in a PC/kilt, well, the world is still gonna spin.

**creagdhubh** · 14th March 10, 07:39 AM

Originally Posted by Jock Scot

I think it is wise to check with, at least the bride, if the kilt will be welcome at all weddings you are proposing to attend. Can I pose a couple of questions? Would you wear a dinner jacket(tux) to a wedding? Is your answer no? If it is, then don't wear the PC, as that is the kilt equivalent to a dinner jacket. The most formal day jacket is the black barathea, silver buttoned Argyll(day jacket), equivalent to a morning coat(tails). If the wedding is that formal then that is the way to go. Normally a tweed Argyll(day jacket)is completely correct for any wedding that is not ultra formal. As to the plaid, it is your choice, but if it were me I would not wear it.

I agree with Jock. Go with the black Argyll in barathea or a a tweed Argyll and dump the plaid.

**Bugbear** · 14th March 10, 08:52 AM

Originally Posted by The Wizard of BC

When the invitation arrives, and you prepare to attend, please remember that there is one un-breakable, inviolable rule of wearing the Kilt at a wedding.

Never, ever, outshine the bride!!!!!!!!

With all the accoutrements and the flash of Tartan is does not take much to become the only focus of attention.

My advice is to keep everything toned down and as subtle as possible.

That's probably a good idea, but I was just thinking about this subject because of another thread. I'm not sure you should be outshining the groom either.

Anyway, I was thinking how nice tartan or argyle hose might look with a daywear outfit in this case, but would that be too flashy for a guest to wear?

**creagdhubh** · 14th March 10, 09:26 AM

Originally Posted by Ted Crocker

That's probably a good idea, but I was just thinking about this subject because of another thread. I'm not sure you should be outshining the groom either.

Anyway, I was thinking how nice tartan or argyle hose might look with a daywear outfit in this case, but would that be too flashy for a guest to wear?

With the wearing of either the black barathea Argyll jacket with matching waistcoat, or the tweed jacket with matching waistcoat, I would opt not to wear tartan or diced hose with either of the two mentioned jacket styles. I would go for a dark, solid colored hose...perhaps black, grey variations, claret, bottle green, purple, navy blue, etc. Basically any darker shade of kilt hose that will tone well with the kilt.

**Bugbear** · 14th March 10, 09:37 AM

How about the groom, could he wear tartan hose with his argyle jacket?

**creagdhubh** · 14th March 10, 09:44 AM

Originally Posted by Ted Crocker

How about the groom, could he wear tartan hose with his argyle jacket?

Sure! He needs something to stand out! Just don't wear the "fly" plaid. I like the black Argyll as basic and plain as possible. You could dress it up with a colorful pocket square.

**Bugbear** · 14th March 10, 09:50 AM

Ya, the more I have thought about it, the more I have become a fan of the look of argyle or tartan hose. That is, of course, just in my mind.

A nice silk pocket square would be a must for the groom, or anyone else.

**CoCelticCouple** · 14th March 10, 10:37 AM

Well, AJWatson has his answers, so this note's a bit late, but as a bride-to-be I'd like to chime in! My first thought was to ask the brides and clarifiy the level of formality...which Jock stated wisely. All the advice given makes great sense to me and I am one of those US born "mutts" with lots to learn and much love for our history.

The perspective I can share here is that one top priority for most brides is for her guests to have a grand time and remember the wedding well. Your choice to wear your kilt honors her and adds opportunities for conversation and fun memories.

Whether you are one of many kilted gentleman or the only one, your decision to be kilted says the event is special to you...and what bride doesn't want that?

Sheila

TO Highlander 31...I love your wife's thought about kilts being like catnip to women!

**Livingston** · 14th March 10, 05:23 PM

Sheila and Tom,

Those of us in the Denver area get together whenever we can for a kilt night to enjoy a good meal and a wee dram or three. We would enjoy having you join us.