From the very beginning: I need advice!

[jfellrath]

I would like to add to the undergarments (or lack thereof) advice: If you should decide to go commando, you might want to get another kilt (an inexpensive one, given that you're saving for the wedding) and get used to the feel of going around regimental for a while.

Otherwise, you'll be at your own wedding and feel like you're re-living that dream where you go to school naked and everyone's staring at you, even if you are perfectly covered.

[davedove]

If you plan on wearing your kilt to lots of formal occasions, go ahead and buy the jacket, too. It will save you money in the long run.

The advise I was always given for tuxedos is if you wear one at least twice a year, you should go ahead and buy one. I suppose a similar guideline would work for a formal kilt jacket.

[bubba]

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[arrogcow]

Both Prince Charlie and Argyle jackets have been mentioned. I would like to add to the list an Irish Brian Baru jacket instead. Similar cut for a kilt, but it has rounded cowel collars instead of the triangular wing ones. The kilt store selles these as well. I personally have an Argyle at the moment, but as soon as some money shows up, I plan to switch.

Adam

[GMan]

Guys in kilts while getting married, how great can it be? CONGRATULATIONS!

Welcome

[macwilkin]

Both Prince Charlie and Argyle jackets have been mentioned. I would like to add to the list an Irish Brian Baru jacket instead. Similar cut for a kilt, but it has rounded cowel collars instead of the triangular wing ones. The kilt store selles these as well. I personally have an Argyle at the moment, but as soon as some money shows up, I plan to switch.

Adam

Good choice, Adam -- the Brian Boru is rather "natty" looking.

T.

[Prester John]

Hey Murray

Congratulations!

I am attending a Scottish wedding next Friday myself. Even though we are not in the wedding party, I, and my 3 boys are going dressed to the hilt- I mean, kilt. My wife has her clan tartan kilted skirt.

If there is time, let others know too, so that they may, if they wish, don a kilt in your honor, or at least wear a tartan tie!

I'm sorry I've come late to this thread and I don't have the time at the moment to read the whole thing through (hospital call), but I assume you have a tartan in mind.

Again, congratulations to you and the future Mrs. Murray.

oh, Schultz, a new member on this list, is also getting married soon. PM him for more info.

[Murray of New Brunswick]

Thanks for all your help, here's what we have so far (I keep updating this to try and summarize what I have learned):

- It terms out a number of these things are matters of taste. In my case, I would like if possible for my outfit to be completely "orthodox": the sort of outfit I would greet the Queen in should she drop by one day, or at least what's considered orthodox for a groom. In cases where I depart from that, I want to do so advisedly, and in cases where what I wear as groom wouldn't be apporpriate for another occasion, I'd like to understand that too.

The well-dressed groom comes to the ceremony loaded with:

1. Prince Charlie jacket - black in my case, although it could be another colour (There are other options for jackets, but this is the more standard one)
2. and black vest;
3. fly plaid
4. with a brooch over the left shoulder;
5. tux shirt (whether with winged collar or not may be a matter of taste )
6. with a black bowtie,
7. studs and cufflinks;
8. dress sporran (white rabbit fur might go well with a wedding dress, but another one would be OK as well, a dress sporran is one with a metal cantle as opposed to a fold-over flap);
9. kilt - 8 yards and handmade for good quality - as a general rule, the heavier weight the better
9B. kilt pin, which goes through the upper apron only
10. hose (whether white or not may be a matter of taste, an alternative would be diced hose or Argyle hose );
11. sgian dubh in the right sock (unless you're left-handed):
12. flashes in either matching tartan or a color that compliments your kilt;
13. ghillie brogues - I am leaning towards piper's because they have a heavier sole and will take more wear
14. kilt belt and buckle - it would seem that the vest of the Prince Charlie may cover this, so it would be better to leave this off; however, it might be good to have this for occasions when not wearing the vest
15. Buy your bride a matching sash and place it over her right shoulder as part of the ceremony.
16. Undergarment (or not) as desired or felt appropriate


OK, so now I have this much knowledge.

Q7: On the sporran, there seems to be a lot of range. I can buy something pretty spectacular for about $400 US, with pewter etc, or there's a guy in Pakistan who will sell me one on e-bay for $20. When I check into this, it appears the folks who sell sporrans are none too fond of their Pakistani competitors flodding the markets with cheap sporran. On the other hand, there's enough Scotch blood in me that I'll save a dollar where I can. How critical is this? One Scot friend of mine has suggested I should try not to buy too flashy a sporran - in his words, you want the focus to be the kilt, not the sporran. What do people think of that?

Q8: Sgian Dubh: I see places selling "officer's" dubhs, which seem almost like a swiss army knife, include a corkscrew, bottle opener, etc. Now without putting too fine a point on it, it may just be possible that from time to time when wearing the kilt, I'll be taking a wee dram for my health. Would it be considered bad form to have a bottle opener included dubh at my wedding? In other words, does a person need to have a "formal" dubh?

[Schultz]

FWIW, I decided on wearing an Argyll jacket with a vest at my wedding because I just dont like the look of me in a PC. Maybe it has something to do with my gut and the little vest that goes with a PC. I just don't find it attractive at all, and I have to be dead sex-ay (or at least believe I am!)!

I also went with the Wyvis Sporran from Scottishkilts/Tartan Centre. It's very dressy but not flashy in the least...I think it's incredibly classy, even.

I'm going with "The Officer" sgian dubh myself, as well, because, well, I like it. The screwdriver and corkscrew are practically unnoticeable and there's also the fact that the overwhelming majority of people at my wedding are either Polish or Italian and they wouldn't know a sporran from a ghillie, so it matters not.

Wear what you are comfortable wearing.

[Murray of New Brunswick]

Yes, well I'm forced to a Prince Charlie despite my gut for the fact that I was named Charles Edward after the Bonnie Prince.