How to talk her into it?

**Bugbear** · 6th April 09, 04:21 PM

Hope it all turns out well for both of you, and best of wishes.

**Kerr the Walker** · 8th April 09, 04:49 AM

So we entered into negotiations.

I've used a plethora of the advice gained from this thread. I showed her pictures of how smart a kilt with all the trappings can look. I showed her a handfull of tartans I can "claim" affiliation with and let her pick out her favorite. I even went on to the Scotweb site with her and let her pick what "look" she liked best.

Gentlemen, I do believe she has come around.

I'm not declaring victory just yet. My girlfriend's mind has been known to change like the wind. Plan for now is to not press the issue and simply hope that me wearing a kilt remains a viable option in her mind.

Thanks again for all the advice!

**GreenDragon** · 8th April 09, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by Kerr the Walker

So my girlfriend and I have recently begun discussing the topic of a wedding. I haven't proposed yet, but she knows it's coming. I've brought up my plans for being hitched in a kilt and she currently doesn't want anything to do with it. Her argument (which I find weak) is that I wear it all the time already. She thinks this would cheapen my wearing it for our wedding for some reason. I personally think this argument doesn't hold water, but I haven't figured out a polite way to tell her I think it's a load of manure and have just been saying "We'll need to talk about this more later."

Here's my question: How do I convince her that me being kilted for our wedding is a good idea? Idealy and significantly less likely, how do I make it seem like it was her idea so we all end up with smiles?

Thanks in advance.

PRO: It will make your wedding stand out more compared to your friends/relatives/coworkers.

CON: (to her) It will make your wedding stand out more compared to your friends/relatives/coworkers.

**lucienrau** · 8th April 09, 08:10 AM

I hope that she goes along with it. Being kilted at my wedding 8 years ago is still one of my favorite memories, second only to the birth of my daughter. I don't think it would be the same if I were just in a tux. It brought my family together to feel the shared history. And seeing the look on my brother's face when we kilted up was priceless. As an added benefit, dancing in a kilt helps amazingly in getting people up and moving at the reception.

As far as making it more memorable, yeah, but it's also made our wedding the one that all of our friends strive match.

**Mark Keeney** · 8th April 09, 08:53 AM

This one is simple.

Tell her what you will be wearing (kilt, colors etc.) make it look really sharp.
Your clothing choices and responsibilities are forever yours not anyone else's.

Respect her enough to deal with it properly and expect respect in return to let you wear your best.

You are in charge of your image and clothing choices. She needs to marry you not who she thinks you should be.

**be da veva** · 8th April 09, 04:24 PM

I was lucky. she actually chose colors to match with my tartan. I told her that i wasn't sure to wear the kilt and she told me that i'd better wear it or else.....

And I have to agree the Rex is smooth.... I delivered the lines he served and she melted... I think a new tank might be on its way.....

Thank you Rex...

**Rex_Tremende** · 8th April 09, 06:13 PM

Originally Posted by be da veva

And I have to agree the Rex is smooth.... I delivered the lines he served and she melted... I think a new tank might be on its way.....

Thank you Rex...

At your service. You can call me Cyrano.

Regards,
Cyra-ah....Rex.

**Panache** · 8th April 09, 06:15 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

At your service. You can call me Cyrano.

Regards,
Cyra-ah....Rex.

HEY!

Cheers

Jamie

**Kerr the Walker** · 9th April 09, 07:23 AM

The amount of class the members of this group have could sink a ship. A really really big unsinkable ship.

Thanks to all for the advice, suggestions and wisdom. Not having done this before, and having no idea where to start the conversation, I was at a bit of a loss. But we have started the conversation and I'm 100% positive that in the end we will both win.

Thanks again.

~Alex

**Ozman1944** · 9th April 09, 01:11 PM

Simply tell her, that as future Lord and Master of the Household, you are putting your foot down, and wearing the Kilt - and that's that! End of discussion!

Then.........RUN, MY FRIEND! RUN LIKE THE WIND! AS FAR AND AS FAST AS YOU CAN! DON'T EVER LOOK BACK! I suggest either running away to the Circus, maybe to Sea, or perhaps a tiny hand built shack in the wilderness somewhere. She'll never find you then.