Hi All,

First, let me say my absence has been due to a couple of factors. One, my new teaching position has taken a lot of time, as I am writing and preparing for two courses, and second, my wife didn't like me spending much time on the computer....

So, because of the new teaching position, I have had to work late into the evening, on the computer, preparing powerpoint presentations, outlines, handouts, etc.....

So now, the issue of trust, and her belief that I am doing something illicit and wrong on the computer has reared its ugly head again.... I will add that one of her best friends' husbands is an unemployed computer geek who is addicted to internet porn, so that doesn't help.

On the way to work this morning, she calls me on my cell phone and offers a separation/divorce and for me to move out with no strings attached - and doesn't seem to want to discuss this trust issue, or any others that we are having.

Anyway, I don't want a divorce or separation, but she says that she really hates me.

Do I just accept this, and move on, and deal, or do I continue to try to establish some dialogue and try to figure out why she lacks trust?

BTW, this is another reason why I never made it to any festivals or outings - she never wanted to go and expressed her displeasure in my interest in the kilt community.