I think the idea of the small pipes is probably what you're looking for. As far as a venue goes, you might consider a museum. There may be one in your area that also serves as a wedding venue. I'm getting married next april and we chose a small art museum close by that will allow the guests access to the main floor during the cocktail hour. A few snacks, wine and a Monet or two is a nice way to start a small ceremony. Of course, we're going full Scottish on the ceremony. My Meg is British (with Scottish on both sides of her family) and I'm a Duncan. Luckily the museum is Bagpipe friendly. As far as reception music, most of our guests are not scottish so we're mixing it up with an acoustic trio doing great R&B,rock with a couple of celtic tunes too. Our aim is for us to have a good time and for our guests and family to have one too.
So just see what fits best for the both of you and go with it.