I really need to vent...

**cessna152towser** · 9th February 13, 03:26 PM

So long as each of you is prepared and willing to accept the other's limitations and downtime, I could see a rosy future together for both of you.

**Copperheid** · 9th February 13, 03:44 PM

Let her talk. Doesn't matter about what. Just...Keep yer mouth shut for a spell, and let her talk. Best started over a meal with wine if it doesn't conflict with meds.

Corinne

Ps. AND LISTEN!

**pbutts** · 9th February 13, 03:54 PM

Originally Posted by Copperheid

Let her talk. Doesn't matter about what. Just...Keep yer mouth shut for a spell, and let her talk.

As they say on another board I'm on when someone has just posted the ultimate word on a subject : "Lock thread."

**creagdhubh** · 9th February 13, 04:38 PM

Originally Posted by Chas

Be yourself - Do not try to be something different to please someone else.

Likewise, accept the other person for who they are. Most relationships break down because of this. One partner or the other, thought at the start that they could 'improve' the other.

Conversations do not have to be about words. A small gesture can say far more than hours of talk.

Regards

Chas

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**TheOfficialBren** · 9th February 13, 05:59 PM

Thanks, folks. I appreciate the advice.

**LitTrog** · 9th February 13, 06:22 PM

No.

I just...no.

Respectfully,

Tyler

**Singlemalt** · 9th February 13, 06:26 PM

I have been happily married to my first and only wife for over thirty years. However, i still don't think this makes me an authority. I realise i have been very lucky. I have always been a happy and optimistic person and was lucky to fall for a girl with a similar outlook on life. I can't think of anything In the way of advice i could possibly offer you other than to be honest and open with each other, but this is obvious. However I do want to pass on my best wishes and prayers that things work out for you as well as they have for me. Be assured happiness is possible, you deserve it and so does she.

**Dale-of-Cedars** · 9th February 13, 07:01 PM

I'm Asperger's too and my good lady and I have been married 36 years. After a few rough early years of not knowing why I was the way I was, we both figured out I needed time alone, and she needed time together, and we balanced it out. We only really understood where I was coming from after our son was diagnosed with Asperger's in High School, and boy it explained a lot about me too.

As everyone else has said, you need to work at marriage, but knowing ahead of time where you are both coming from should let each of you avoid unrealistic expectations about the other, and be supportive of the other's needs.

**TheOfficialBren** · 9th February 13, 07:05 PM

Thanks, Dale. That is SO true about us Aspies. I was diagnosed a few years ago at the age of 23. I am 28 now. It is a very commn story among us to be diagnosed later than many other conditions. It isn't always easy going through a NT world but we just chug along and get by.

I am amazed at how many of us there are out there!