What to wear to a friend's wedding?

[hylander]

Something to consider since you did not mention it in your post. Will anyone in the wedding party be kilted? If not you might reconsider going kilted. No bride likes to be upstaged and if you are the only one there kilted you, there is the danger of making one or more of the main participants upset. Someone else's wedding may not be the best venue to make your kilt debut. I'm speaking from a USA point of view, but if you are determined to make this your debut, you might want to ask someone who represents the brides perspective in the wedding party their opinion of you kilt plans. The reason you can't get your friends to commit to how formal the wedding will be may be because they don't know how to tell you nix on the kilt. Did you even mention to them you are considering wearing the kilt? Some may disagree with this advice, but to repeat the main point these weddings are not your days to shine. If you think I am wrong by all means go kilted, but don't be surprised if you get some cold shoulders and nasty glares. It might make for a less than positive kilt debut experience.