To kilt in modern north american society

[Alan H]

I am going to try this today (you may see a later thread about 'separation caused by kilts' if it doesn't go well) she will dig her heels in and try to get her own way and say I should wear a suit instead (perhaps I will, but it will be a kilt suit ) and may protest and refuse to travel with me, choosing the bus instead... she came from a single parent family so no doubt always got her own way, but that will have to change... I'll post the outcome later on...

There's a fine line between standing up for yourself and being a jerk. There's also a fine line between being considerate and being a doormat.

I would not estrange Joan over an article of clothing. However, I WOULD put our relationship on the line over the issues of control and power. Only you know whether the "issue" is "kilts"...or whether it's that she thinks she has the right to tell you what to do.