Firstly, thank you for your service, and thank you for your story, also congratulations on beating cancer, my twin brother is a cancer survivor as well. I think as for a black tie event most of the outfit can be used, Personally, I would switch out the jabot for a tuxedo shirt and black bow tie. If you have not seen it yet it might help you to take a look at the 1 kilt 10 looks thread that I participated in some years ago.

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