Officiating a wedding...?

**Father Bill** · 1st January 17, 06:00 PM

Thanks for including me in your thoughts. I'm honoured, and yes I have a bit of experience with weddings, including mixing with kilts, however my discipline is to be faithful to the traditions of the church, and again, to the traditions of highland wear.

Since this is not a church service, I can make no comment on your choices; they're simply... choices. It appears that among them you've chosen some non-traditional items to add to the mix. Again, they're just your choices and therefore can neither be wrong nor right since they don't follow established patterns.

I wish you well on this venture along with your friends. I'm sure that you'll work something out to meet their wishes and have a happy occasion. Congratulations to all!

**derosa** · 1st January 17, 08:29 PM

Make sure the couple and the witnesses are sober, they're signing a legal contract and it is one of the requirements that should be observed. Dress your best to the satisfaction of the couple and your wife and have enjoy.

**MacRobert's Reply** · 2nd January 17, 06:09 AM

Interesting range of questions Taffy Jack.

Like Father Bill, I have conducted more than a few weddings but they have all been explicitly Christian. Certainly combining Jewish and Christian elements should not be difficult given the substantial use of the Torah (Old Testament) in Christian wedding liturgies. Song of Songs (Solomon) has some great passages that work for both Jews and Christians. I have no idea how paganism can be included.

Make certain that all legal requirements are met.

If the wedding is in the evening then a PC should be fine and avoiding white hose is a good idea IMHO. Coloured hose with red flashes sounds good. A sgian is optional and fly plaids just tend to be cumbersome and have largely fallen out of use on this side of the pond.

Best wishes to the bride and groom!

**Jock Scot** · 2nd January 17, 06:28 AM

I note that you are intending to wear your miniature medals. I do also note with interest that your friend had asked you to wear them. May I ask purely out of interest as it does seem a little odd so to do, to many of us over here. Does the intended wedding have a military theme?

**Manu** · 2nd January 17, 06:47 AM

You definitely put together an unorthodox ensemble! I myself can't picture it all together, so I look forward to seeing pictures. I personally would switch the PC for Argyll and leave the fly plaid off. Whatever you guys choose, let it be what makes the day a perfect one for you and your friends. Cheers!

**MacRobert's Reply** · 2nd January 17, 07:00 AM

One further thought ...really a question. Why the jump boots? Is this because it will be an outdoor wedding in rough terrain? Otherwise the combination of evening wear with boots sounds a bit incongruous.

Serendipitously, I was asked to conduct an outdoor wedding just last week, by a loch side in Argyle in the spring. I expect this will be kilts and tweeds.

**McMurdo** · 2nd January 17, 10:22 AM

Originally Posted by MacRobert's Reply

One further thought ...really a question. Why the jump boots? Is this because it will be an outdoor wedding in rough terrain? Otherwise the combination of evening wear with boots sounds a bit incongruous.

I was thinking the very same thing, if it were me especially with the PC I would go with brogues, highly polished of course.

**Taffy Jack** · 2nd January 17, 12:21 PM

Originally Posted by Manu

You definitely put together an unorthodox ensemble! I myself can't picture it all together, so I look forward to seeing pictures. I personally would switch the PC for Argyll and leave the fly plaid off. Whatever you guys choose, let it be what makes the day a perfect one for you and your friends. Cheers!

The bride and groom are fine with either, but my own wife's dislike for the Argyll seems entrenched. Per the pictures on USA Kilts, Pretty Wife likes neither the vest opening nor the lapel.

Going with your advice on the fly plaid. Among other things, it would make for a very busy lapel/shoulder area.

Thanks, Manu.

**tpa** · 2nd January 17, 04:41 PM

I'm sorry, but I cannot see boots, however pretty, being appropriate wear with a PC, unless the wedding is outside somewhere on a muddy or grassy field or hillside with the bride and groom also in boots or wellies, in which case the PC would also be out of place.

However mine is a purely UK view and over here brogues work perfectly well in most scenarios unless the mud is very deep or the (wet) grass very high.

**Manu** · 2nd January 17, 09:35 PM

Originally Posted by Taffy Jack

The bride and groom are fine with either, but my own wife's dislike for the Argyll seems entrenched. Per the pictures on USA Kilts, Pretty Wife likes neither the vest opening nor the lapel.

Going with your advice on the fly plaid. Among other things, it would make for a very busy lapel/shoulder area.

Thanks, Manu.

I live by the motto "happy wife, happy life" haha cheers!