Just let the wife know

[Ugly Bear]

Well, I just let my wife know I was getting a kilt. It didn't go over very well

In a dusgusted tone she said "well don't wear it around me."

And yet you have posted some pictures of yourself in a kilt. Has she seen you in that one? If not, why not?

If she absolutely won't come around, or spits out the word "crossdressing," I say give in. Give up the kilt entirely. And then go through her wardrobe and hide all her pants. Hey, she's the one insisting on orthodoxy in clothing, and all's fair ...

[dana]

And yet you have posted some pictures of yourself in a kilt. Has she seen you in that one? If not, why not?

If she absolutely won't come around, or spits out the word "crossdressing," I say give in. Give up the kilt entirely. And then go through her wardrobe and hide all her pants. Hey, she's the one insisting on orthodoxy in clothing, and all's fair ...

No, she hasn't see that one either. I was waiting until the "better" one was on the way before I told her.

I don't think confontational is the way to go, I think it will just drive her farther away.

Fortunately we have a mutual friend (woman) that seems very supportive. Her grandfather had a kilt and she said it will remind her of him. I hoping she'll help convince my wife to embrace the kilt.
Btw, her maiden name is Sutherland, now there's a good Scottish name

Hopefully all will smooth out over time.

dana

[GMan]

Dana,

Just be gentle and patient, I know that you will do the right thing!

[Freedomlover]

It is really sad when one member --it doesn't matter which one-- of the team flatly refuses to consider the wants, desires, or dreams of the other. We know very well that if the shoe were on the other foot there would likely be not a hint of tolerance.

When either marriage partner takes that kind of tone, especially over a minor matter, it is only destructive.

[Buddha]

My wife wasn't the most supportive (she still blames Dick Clark)...and it got worse when she saw how much attention I got from other women...and then I laid down the law and said "I aint goin back to pants" and she accepted it...after not talking to me for 2 days.

just tell your wife it makes it easier to play "lampshade"

[Dreadbelly]

My wife had questions, and wasn't quite sure what to think at first. She simply wasn't familiar with it.

Once she saw it on me, and got used to it, she became down right fanatical, rabid even, about men in kilts. When somebody yells "nice skirt!" she is apt to holler something back at them that I shouldn't repeat on this board, but on one occasion it involved somebody performing gratitious sexual acts with their troosers being inserted in a place that God never intended for troosers to go. Not a sunny place.

She may come around. There was a fella on this board who's wife wasn't to hot on the idea, and she came around nicely.

Perhaps, what you need, is a little something to ignite her fire. Ask her to marry you again, and set up a simple ceremony to re-affirm your vows. And with out telling her, dress up in a full blown kilt rig. She might just be wowed enough by that to develop an emotional attatchment, something women are prone to do. **Ducks** Women are suckers for anything romantic, anything involving roses, rings, or chocolate. **Ducks** Find some way to take her breath away and she is putty in your hands.

[KiltedHuntsman]

Bring home a copy of Rob Roy and play it for her. She'll want you to dress just like Liem Neilson...

[Raphael]

If she is not into Liam Neilsen, Bring home Braveheart. Mel Gibson would do a number on most woman.

If she needs convincing that you don't need to be a Scot to wear kilt, bring home Formula 51.

[Atticus]

My wife didn't want me going out in a kilt either (at first). She thought I'd get heckeled and she hated seeing me get "hurt". I think she felt I'd be made fun of.

I wear a kilt most of the time that I am not at work. As long as I wear underwear (when she is around) she is okay with it. Now when we go out she knows I'll get a few "nice skirt" comments but she is comfortable knowing I don't care what anyone thinks. She also used to worry I'd get into a fist fight over my manliness. (how do you spell that one?) But she she realizes that it is not a big deal.

Now she is mostly worried that I look "too cute" and some other chickies will try and snap me up.

My advice...wear it at home first. Get comfortable with it (get her comfortable with it)...Then short trips to places were idiot men don't hang out (grocery stores). Whenever you are in public with her, shower HER with attention. Show everyone you don't care about what they think (about your cloths) but show her that you love her and that you are mature enough (man enough) to shrug off a few dumb comments. Don't counter attack ignorant people or their comments. She'll end up thinking you're pretty cool...
and if she doesn't...well at least you'll be wearing a kilt!

[Atticus]

Oh and by the way blk_watch...

go get a cortisone shot for that tennis elbow! (I saw the brace in your gallery pic). The shot is almost painless and people get much better...at least with the ones for tennis elbow.