Hello Mrs. Cavscout and welcome to the discussion.

I can offer three books that helped both me and my wife

Matthew Newsome's patented advice for first time kilt wearers
J. Charles Thompson's "So Your're Going to Wear the Kilt"
Bob Martin's "All About Your Kilt"

I have all three books available and would gladly loan them to you. There is also a kilt book PDF located here that is very informative...

http://www.clan.com/kiltsandtartan/

If you are interested in the above books, have your hubby PM me and we will see what we can do!

Mike