You may find, as I did, that those close to you may be nearer in death than they were in life. Odd that.

Could someone closer to their Scottish heritage describe what was done traditionally in Scotland upon a death? I have seen many a grave stone there, but wonder what might have been the marker in the 1600's or 1700's?

Perhaps you could plant a tree that is special to the time of year of his birthday, or build a small cairn with rocks from places he lived? I would like to plant a mountain ash (rowan) for my own father who passed several years back.