Mine has some of the same reservations. Thought I stood out too much, thought I got too much attention, thought it was just plain weird.

So what, I like wearing kilts. I do pay attention to her feelings and will not automaticly put on a kilt if I think she is going to have an issue, but in the same respect, unless she gives up on what she thinks I "should" do or be I could never truley be myself.

Either your wife respects and honors you, your choices, feelings and beliefs or she insists that it "is all about her". If the former, compromise is essential. If the later, good luck cause the next thing you show interest in will also go down in flames.

Remember the two magic words in a relationship go both ways, she gets to say them too. Instead of rolling her eyes, and making rude comments when you tell her you are kilting up for the day; the apporpriate response is "Yes, Dear".

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