Wife does not like me in a kilt

[Dixiecat]

Its just confusing!

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

[GreenDragon]

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

We both do the giving, trust me.

[Cowher]

This post is quite presumptive. The wording is hostile and rude in my opinion.
Respect and communication will crumble many walls in any relationship.

And? If confusion is all you're complaining about, then you're being absurd and melodramatic. Not the way to win respect and indulgence from your wife.

My ex was a hunter when I met him. Ducks and grouse mostly with the occasional moose or caribou. I'd not been brought up that way and had no experience. Guns make me uncomfortable. However, I went hunting with him once and was given lessons on how to handle the gun. Lovely day, the dog enjoyed the hike and we didn't see any birds, but that was the only and last time I went. I found I still was uncomfortable with the gun and found I disliked the thought of hunting. However, I never once stood in his way to go hunting and never disallowed him his purchase of a gun when he wanted it. I even allowed the guns in the house as long as they were properly secured and locked away. He respected my feelings enough to buy a proper door and lock for our furnace room and put his guns there.

You have to give as well as take. And, it looks like your wife is doing the giving. And, as it's harder to give when the person dislikes or is uncomfortable with the gift, I think that deserves more respect than whining about the dislike.

[Dixiecat]

This post is quite presumptive. The wording is hostile and rude in my opinion.
Respect and communication will crumble many walls in any relationship.

I respectfully submit that you didn't understand the gist of the opinion I was trying to convey as I was saying exactly that.

[Cowher]

I think I understood the point of all of your posts in this thread. The issue I had was the way you said it I took as rude. I have nothing against you I just think on forums it's easy to be taken the wrong way.
Anyway.... I'm not mad at ya.

I respectfully submit that you didn't understand the gist of the opinion I was trying to convey as I was saying exactly that.

[Dixiecat]

I think I understood the point of all of your posts in this thread. The issue I had was the way you said it I took as rude. I have nothing against you I just think on forums it's easy to be taken the wrong way.
Anyway.... I'm not mad at ya.

Perhaps you need to read them again. Especially where I point out mutual respect. There was no hostility, presumption or rudeness.

[Dale Seago]

Perhaps you need to read them again. Especially where I point out mutual respect. There was no hostility, presumption or rudeness.

Cowher, I recommend you quit while she's ahead.

[Bugbear]

Cowher, I recommend you quit while she's ahead.