First, great outfit! You look good. You should take a new set of pics, however, after the beard comes off, for a comparison.

I can see why your wife would say that it looks very military. In the first photo, I thought you were wearing a tunic. I can see in the second how the waistcoat and black shirt blend in together.

Is that your preferred style of vest? All those silver buttons sure look like a military uniform. Should you want to soften the look, maybe try a light-colored shirt? Cheers.

P.S. these pics are really, really big!! You might want to post a smaller size in the future.