Jacket advice

[Silent Raven]

Usually the parents of the bride are the hosts, and determine dress, no? It would be in poor taste to "out-dress" the host.

That being said, I really don't know why so many of you obsess over dress to weddings. It's all very simple, and there have been countless threads discussing this. The search option is very helpful. It's all quite simple, really. If the wedding takes place in the evening after 1800h, and it has been determined that the wedding is a "formal" wedding, then normally the groom, best man and groomsmen wear white tie. The fathers should dress in this manner, too. For kilt wearers, there are a number of jacket options. A Prince Charlie coatee is usually not considered appropriate for white tie, but nonetheless is worn by many.

The next level of formality is a "semi-formal" wedding. Groom, best man, and groomsmen wear dinner jackets ( black tie; "tuxes" ). The fathers can wear dinner jackets, or dark suits. Kilt wearers can wear once again almost any style of evening doublet. No need for matching! A "regulation style" doublet would be an ideal choice.

It's a shame that people don't know what to wear these days and worry themselves silly and fail to appreciate the event for what it really should be: less of a fashion show, and more of a celebration among friends and family.

Well I am not really worried about people matching, as there will be many different tartans present. I was more so worried about "out-dressing" the host and was wondering people thoughts on the matter. i know the options available, and ive read many of the other topics about weddings, but this isnt about whats considered 'regulation' or 'official' it was more so about being polite and not over dressing a fairly important member of the wedding. and for our wedding we are hosting it ourselves, i was just wondering how the general rabble might feel if they were in my father-in-laws shoes.

[chrisupyonder]

Ok my 2 pence worth.

Groom, Sherifmuir doublet with vest, jabot and cuffs
Groomsmen PC's with vest and white ties
Brides father in his tux suit
Grooms father black argyle and vest with bow tie.
The rest as they want.

Chris.

[Lime]

I was recently in the Clachaig Inn enjoying a pint of one of their fine local ales and recovering from a day of getting rather wet when a bride walked in, to cheers and applause, wearing all her finery. It transpired that the wedding party had climbed some mountain or other and they got married in their climbing gear. The climb was rather strenuous and only the groom, bride, photographer/bestman, bride's maid and attending official were prepared to do it.

I'm not saying it is everyone's ideal wedding but it would probably solve your problem!

[creagdhubh]

Usually the parents of the bride are the hosts, and determine dress, no? It would be in poor taste to "out-dress" the host.

That being said, I really don't know why so many of you obsess over dress to weddings. It's all very simple, and there have been countless threads discussing this. The search option is very helpful. It's all quite simple, really. If the wedding takes place in the evening after 1800h, and it has been determined that the wedding is a "formal" wedding, then normally the groom, best man and groomsmen wear white tie. The fathers should dress in this manner, too. For kilt wearers, there are a number of jacket options. A Prince Charlie coatee is usually not considered appropriate for white tie, but nonetheless is worn by many.

The next level of formality is a "semi-formal" wedding. Groom, best man, and groomsmen wear dinner jackets ( black tie; "tuxes" ). The fathers can wear dinner jackets, or dark suits. Kilt wearers can wear once again almost any style of evening doublet. No need for matching! A "regulation style" doublet would be an ideal choice.

It's a shame that people don't know what to wear these days and worry themselves silly and fail to appreciate the event for what it really should be: less of a fashion show, and more of a celebration among friends and family.

Well stated Sandy.

[MacMillans son]

It seems if the invitation doesn't call for a certain style or level of dress, then it's left up to the attendees to decide. There are some guidelines, relative to times of day, for the event that would generally apply, but many people don't even know what those are. I wouldn't for instance, in the absence of an indication on the invitation, expect all of the males to call ahead and see what your father in law was going to wear. They would wear what ever they thought was appropriate to a wedding. I was at just such an affair two weeks ago, there was everything from long sleeve shirts and "their best blue jeans" to three piece suits.

Again, in the absence of an indication on the invitation, I would suggest your father dress in what ever he finds appropriate for the occasion (Black argyll jacket, white shirt and regular tie ?) and not worry too much about what your father in law was going to wear.

That's my thoughts.