Trying not to get angry at co-worker

[Larry124]

Or share with him the posts in this topic.

[Nighthawk]

I got it!! I got it!! I got it!! Hold up the little pom poms, look at the guys crotch and say "Your girlfriend finally cut those off of you, did she? You poor thing. But I don't need them- mine are brass and still attached." And hand them back to him!

[Jock Scot]

Their actions do not warrant a reply.

[Spc. Scott]

It is hard to hold your temper when it comes to people like that.

I wish I something more I could suggest that could change the mind of this fellow. I suppose that you could let him know this, that there's no need to interact with you again outside of work related issues.

Less obvious negativity towards you that way and you likely spend less good time and energy thinking anything at all about him.

[mbhandy]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.(

MrBill

[gseven1]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.

MrBill

I agree with Mr. Bill, especially if this has been an ongoing problem. I don't believe that a person ought to run off to HR when a problem arises, there is more benefit IMO to try and work it out first without having management involved, however, if this person and his girlfriend can't or won't resolve it... then by all means file a harassment complaint with HR.

[bricelythgoe]

I feel you missed the snappy come back. Now you need to take the bull by the hornes and just tell him you don't appreciate those kind of comments and if he does not stop wou will be forced to make a formal complaint about his comments.(

MrBill

My problem is that I am not good at that. I have found that if I try to say something quick to get back, something really dumb usually comes out. I am the kind of person that has to think about something before I say it.

[bricelythgoe]

As I kept thinking about this, I realized that it was the comment about my son that got me a little angry. I don't know why, but it really got me steaming when the two were making fun of him. I think it is so cool that my son comes up to me and says, "Dada, I want a kilt!" I guess that is what made me more upset. I can handle it with me, but not my family.

[GMan]

I understand your feelings about the comments regarding your son. Yet I go along with those who say leave it alone. I find that once you do that everyone will get tired of the "jokes"

[jpo]

As I kept thinking about this, I realized that it was the comment about my son that got me a little angry. I don't know why, but it really got me steaming when the two were making fun of him. I think it is so cool that my son comes up to me and says, "Dada, I want a kilt!" I guess that is what made me more upset. I can handle it with me, but not my family.

I was going to say, when he went after your kid that is when things go unacceptable. The jokes about you were simply pathetic, not particularly offensive, but when they go after your kids thats not cool.

I feel like taking him aside and saying something about what he said about your son is the best course of action. It is hard to get to people who think that calling it a skirt is the best thing ever, but pointing out that he was insulting your kid might get through his thick skull.

Good luck, and just remember, when you argue with a fool, passersby can't tell who is the idiot.
jim