Interesting Discovery

[kiltedtom]

Today, I attended the funeral of an elderly cousin She would have been 95yo in a few days. . She is my father's first cousin, so I guess that makes her my second cousin. Anyway, she was wonderfully loved by her entire family, and it was the first funeral in years where I did not find myself crying. There was no need to cry; we were there to celebrate her great and long life.

Anyway, at the funeral home, I was talking with one of my cousins closer to my age (56yo), and commented on his new Jeep. He claimed the jeep was his "midlife crisis" and that it was cheaper than getting a second girlfriend. Of course, I am sure his first gilrfriend would have not let that happen. LOL-- I then told him that my "midlife crisis" was purchasing a kilt. He then said that he had two kilts. I was surprise and excited to find out that some one that close to me had kilts too. I did not get to ask for anymore details, but rest assured that I will contact him and find out. Also hoping that we can hang out some and enjoy kilting together.

Have a great week ahead.

Tom

[ctbuchanan]

It is always an honor to celebrate the long life of a relative. And the gentle woman you honored would be your 1st cousin 1 time removed.

[rlloyd]

It is always an honor to celebrate the long life of a relative. And the gentle woman you honored would be your 1st cousin 1 time removed.

Technically, you're correct, but different areas of the USA use different terminology. Where I come from, that's referred to as a second cousin. No one uses the "x times removed" parlance here.

[MacKenzie]

Technically, you're correct, but different areas of the USA use different terminology. Where I come from, that's referred to as a second cousin. No one uses the "x times removed" parlance here.

Likewise where most of my recent kin originated (southwestern Virginia). But then I found out that, "We didn't know no better."

[unixken]

This ought to help clear up the cousin confusion.

[Chas]

It is always quite wonderful how Fate conspires to create situations like this.

serendipity

1. An unsought, unintended, and/or unexpected, but fortunate, discovery and/or learning experience that happens by accident.

2. A combination of events which are not individually beneficial, but occurring together produce a good or wonderful outcome.

[tulloch]

Welcome from the highlands of Central Massachusetts. Good decision. Not a crisis but a triumph!

[kiltedtom]

Mr. Cormack,

Thank you for this explanation. My grandmother and his grandmother were sisters. So I guess that our common ancestor is a great-grand parent. So we are second cousins. Either way, I need to get to know him better. I was never that active with that part of the family, though I have many wonderful memories of his grandmother, my great aunt, and of his mother, the woman we burried yesterday. As youngsters, we did visited some; as adults we grew apart. Too bad. But we can correct that now.

Thanks,
Tom

[MacLowlife]

KT- I am betting that this cousin is going to become a closer one, thanks to your shared interest.

I understand the "removed" idea this way- it refers to the two people being of a different generation, one from the other. My father's first cousin is either my first cousin once removed (sounds more important) or my second cousin once removed (sounds distant). Around here, where so many people are related, some people warmly claim their fifth cousins and shun their first and second ones.

[Nathan]

KT- I am betting that this cousin is going to become a closer one, thanks to your shared interest.

I understand the "removed" idea this way- it refers to the two people being of a different generation, one from the other. My father's first cousin is either my first cousin once removed (sounds more important) or my second cousin once removed (sounds distant). Around here, where so many people are related, some people warmly claim their fifth cousins and shun their first and second ones.

Your father's first cousin is your first cousin once removed. That individual's child is your second cousin. Your second cousin will be your child's second cousin, once removed. Simple.