Do you ever just NOT want the attention?

[Rex_Tremende]

Do others ever just want to avoid the attention that wearing a kilt can bring on?

Yes, sometimes.

When I'm not in my office drag, I more often than not choose to wear a kilt for going out and about. I've not thrown out all my trousers, and I like choices, besides, and there are times when I consider my mood, my destinations, my purpose, my capacity to put together an outfit, or whatever, and the outcome is that I choose to keep the kilts in the closet. In the internal conversation, my id tells my ego it is being lazy. The ego doesn't really have a come-back, but still somehow wins the argument.

Still there are plenty of times that I'm in the kilt, going about my business, when someone wants to stops and say something (anything, apparently), and I give a polite reply when my preference is to ignore them. It sort of irritates me when someone makes some kind of remark like, "You must be cold in that," and I start to explain, but it's clear they are not the least bit interested. It's like some people see a kilt and they are suddenly overcome by some strange form of Tourette syndrome. I know that when I think like this about people, it's a big clue that I'd just rather not be bothered.

It's a funny thing, the attention. At first you may be terrified by it. Then probably bask in it. Then you manage it. Sometimes it disappears and you miss it, and then it intrudes again uninvited, and you despise it.

But you know what they say: you can't control other people; you can only control your reaction to them and make your own behavioral choices.

Regards,
Rex.