I just wanted to clarify......my initial post was not about weather to wear a kilt or not. I was always going to attend this funeral kilted. As the owner of multiple Tartans I was wondering if the a dress tartan would be an inappropriate choice.

Just as an update...
I wore my Clan Tartan to both the Visitation and the funeral. Ultimately I felt that the darker pattern conveyed the proper amount of respect. The variation of tartan at the funeral was breathtaking. The pipes were played and the whiskey flowed. My friend will be sorely missed, but we sent him on his way in style.
-Keith77