Oh what a scary proposal

[Jock Scot]

Or, you could go down the route that many Scots go and have just one kilt.

[KD Burke]

I have found that there is nothing more degrading for an adult than having to ask for permission to buy something that they want (unless it's something that effects the entire family like a pet)--isn't that half of the fun of being an adult? That and being able to eat chocolate right before dinner is most of the reason I grew up!

I have no intention of hijacking the thread, but when someone says something wise, I am compelled to point it out. All too often we are reminded of the responsibilities and drudgery of adulthood. It is indeed refreshing to be reminded on occasion that there are compensations.

Thank you, Ali, for a unique and wonderful perspective!

KD
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[ForresterModern]

My wife does not like me wearing kilts, so therefore does not like me spending money on kilts or kilt related kit. She does not wear dresses, excpet to the rare formal event, and complains that I have more "dresses" than she does. We don't have any agreement on how much I can spend on kilt related stuff since it actually is not that much---I would spend that much on golfing or fishing gear or cycling gear or snowboarding stuff and trips for each, so it is simply a shifting of disposable income. The other reason she doesn't give me TOO much grief is that I am the sole breadwinner in the household and make a good living, she is frugal enough to only buy what we need plus a few nice things for us and the house, and I what we need and both want plus my personal distractions of a harmless nature.

I do however, hear about each and every purchase of kilt material, kilts, or kilt accoutrements that show up on the doorstep, as whe is the one home signing for the packages and greeting me at the door after work with the "what did you buy this time" greeting, folloed by the "another sporran?" or "another kilt" or "more kilt hose" response, then the "how much did this cost---no wait, I don't want to know" finishing sentence. With the exception of the fur sporrans (she is allergic to animal dander) she generally likes the stuff i buy, but does not want me to wear it when she is around or when she thinks I might make a bad impression on myself or her by wearing it out in public. Oh well.

j

[Scott West]

When conferring with the other half on a potential kilt purchase, she simply responds with "no." How streamlined of a discussion can that be?! I'm lucky to not have to worry about those pesky point/counter-point "discussions" being an issue.

... and then covert ops begin...

[wildrover]

Perhaps she means that she wants a dress/skirt to match his kilts?

I was going to suggest exactly that, if the discussion wasn't good-natured and a peace keeping accord need be reached! See the "kilted at prom" thread and a couple recent photos from (IIRC) cwt87.

The whole point is to keep me from spending to much money. and yes she is talking about 1-1 not dollar amount. Since I don't have much to spend on kilts anyway it should keep me from going over board...I don't know if accessories are included in the deal.

What Jock Scot said, and my opinion, it's far better to have one very nice kilt...an 8yd knife pleat in 16oz Dalgliesh, for example...which may be worn anytime with anything, vs a half dozen lesser quality kilts. Also consider how often you'll wear a kilt, and if it's justifiable to have one for each day of the week. Considering you can go broke buying everything to go with that one nice kilt, and that you can wear it with a jacket or a pair of running shoes, is more than one really necessary?

A heavyweight wool kilt is more durable than our treatment of these heirlooms might suggest...yes we wear a tank with a suit jacket to weddings, funerals and dress-up occasions, but you can also wear it running, drinking, bashing through the woods, hunting (mind you don't crouch on a thorn bush), cleaning the house, watching the game, and most other places that you'd normally wear pants that don't involve fire, chemicals, or turning upside down.

The first dress she picked out was a tavern wenches outfit to wear to the games we attend.

This could work for you . Hopefully, her statement was made mostly in jest and with both your interests at heart!

-Sean

[ABG0819]

No I am not independently wealthy or dependently wealthy for that matter and my list is a long one I admit but I do not intend on buying them all today. The problem is that once I catch an addiction I don't know how to turn it off. I've waited for 12 years to purchase my first kilt (my father and I visited Scotland in 99) and now I'm hooked.

Graham

[KiltShot]

... she generally likes the stuff i buy, but does not want me to wear it when she is around or when she thinks I might make a bad impression on myself or her by wearing it out in public.

Here's a quote to consider:

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, blame. The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins. -Bob Moawad

Kilt on!

[Chainsaw02]

I guess that I am a fortunate man. My wife is into celtic wear and our clan as much as I am. I do make much of our clothing and accessories so if I wish to buy something I may. She has 5 kilts of various types and her ren faire garb is extensive. Are we rich? not by a long shot as I am retired and she still has her factory job. We do travel in our RV or stay in hotels, and enjoy life to the fullest. And there will be nothing left for the kids to fight over.

Be patient and good things will come folks. If your treat your wife like a queen chances are she will treat you like a king.

Larry Dirr