Quote Originally Posted by AKScott View Post
4. When in doubt, it is the bride's day, not anyone else's.
In this particular case, I sort of disagree here.

I know grooms want to keep the peace but, my goodness, since when did the wedding day become the day when only the bride makes important choices? I understand keeping the peace but a wedding is for TWO people--not just the bride.

I say sit down with your wife-to-be and perhaps, IF YOU WANT to use your clan tartan or a tartan that has meaning to you, then gently voice that to her. If the bridesmaids dresses are already chosen and the color is picked, then perhaps it's too late, but if not, then the bride should be open to your suggestions.

remember, IT IS YOUR DAY TOO!!!! Not just hers. Wedding decisions should be made together. Im sure your future wife loves you a lot (why else would she be marrying you!?) and would be willing to sit with you and at least come to a happy medium. If you are ok with matching the bridesmaids, then go for it! But if it makes you uncomfortable, you should try to find a way where it suits you too. It's your day as well.